Goodness is truly virtue, and that is a feature that can make the world a better place. I have always said: “The more you give, the more you get.” But have you ever noticed that the kind people you know don’t have many close friends?
Now, here’s an interesting remark.
It’s not like those individuals are insignificant or unscrupulous. On the contrary. They can be some of the best people you’ve ever met. However, the scope of their close friendship remains surprisingly.
Can you inquire about why this happens?
Well, I’m going to share with you seven behaviors that could make a certain idea of this paradox.
These are habits that are often extremely good people who, despite their best intentions, find less close friendships than can be expected.
Let’s now dive into these seven behaviors.
1) They often prioritize others
It may sound as virtue, isn’t it? After all, the kindness is not to put everything else to other people in front of us.
Well, here is the hunt.
While it’s great to care for others, the extremely internal behavior can sometimes lead to an imbalance of relationships. Good people often go out of their way to help others, sometimes at the expense of their needs and well-being.
And guess what? This can actually create a certain distance.
Other people can be uncomfortable to feel permanently selflessly, feeling that they cannot answer adequately. Or they can start to accept this kindness, which leads to one-way friendship.
Surprisingly, by giving priority to others, good people can inevitably restrict the depth of their friendship. It is a delicate balance of strike, but recognizing this trend is the first step towards the creation of a more balanced relationship.
2) They tend to avoid conflict
Here is something I had first.
As someone who appreciates harmony and peace, I have always found that I avoid any form of conflict. If a friend said or said something that disturbed me instead, I would just hit it and I would make sure it’s not a big deal.
But here’s what I learned over time.
Avoiding avoidance of conflict can keep things on peace, but it can prevent us from resolving this issue. By not declaring our feelings or concerns, we can unintentionally distract our relationship.
After all, friendship is not only about a common laughter and happy memories. They also refer to disagreements and understand each other’s views.
Thus, while it can be good, avoiding conflict to maintain harmony, it can sometimes lead to superficial friendship. The main thing is to find our feelings respectful and constructive, promoting deep connections with our surroundings.
3) They are fighting with the definition of boundaries
Here is a heavy truth. Sometimes goodness can make a mistake to make anything willing to accept everything.
I’ve seen it. I have lived it.
You want to help? You want to be there all the time. And you are incredibly difficult to say “no” because you don’t want to disappoint anyone. That’s exactly who you are kind and carefully.
But that’s what happens.
Your time, your energy and even your emotional well-being starts decay, as you are constantly dragging in different directions. You become a person’s personality for everyone’s problems but who is for you there?
Defining the boundaries is not selfish or unscrupulous. It’s enough to respect you to accept that you can’t pour into a blank cup.
Defining healthy boundaries, you teach people how to deal with you while maintaining your emotional energy for real, mutual connections.
4) They tend to be involved and enjoy the loneliness
Not all people emit. In fact, many are the opposite.
You see, goodness often comes from a deep compassion and place of intrusion.
And individuals who have these qualities can also have a natural tendency to loneliness. They alone need time to reflect and maintain their emotional balance.
Now you may think. “What is the problem with it?”
Well, it’s not an independent problem, but sometimes it can misunderstand with others. People can perceive them as far away or uninteresting when they are actually socializing, they just keep their energy.
The result. Less social interactions and therefore less close friendships.
But here is the silver cover.
These individuals often have some very deep companies than a large circle of casual acquaintances.
They appreciate the quality for the quantity when it comes to relationships that is perfectly well. It’s just another social style that isn’t quite understandable.
5) they are often highly sensitive
Good people are often incredibly compassionate, which means they can feel deeply and understand the emotions of others.
This raised sensitivity allows them to be compassionate and caring, but it also comes to its challenges in its own row.
Studies show that highly sensitive people are more likely to have social anxiety and stress. They can be deeply affected by negative interactions or criticism, which can make them more careful about the formation of close relations.
They can also be suppressed in social situations, if too many emotional intensity involved. This can inevitably lead to them, keeping a safe distance from possible friends, preferring to protect their emotional balance.
It’s not that they don’t want close friendships. All the opposite. But their sensitivity can sometimes make the process more difficult and challenged than it can be for others.
Understanding this can help us to assess their unique prospects about friendship.
6) They often make it easier for others
This is a wonderful thing about kind people. They have a natural ability to make them feel comfortable and calm. They listen carefully, show real interest and suggest convenience words if necessary.
Now you may think – Well, it sounds perfect for me. “
But here’s where everything is slightly complicated.
Because they are so good to ensure comfort, others can start seeing them more as a source of support than equal terms.
It can sometimes experience a one-way street where they are always listeners and rarely hear.
This definitely does not mean that they are accepted accepted. It’s just their kindness can sometimes create a dynamic where they end up a consultant’s role than a friend.
It is important to remember that everyone needs to rely on someone from time to time, even in us. And confirming it, it can pave the way to be more balanced and improved.
7) They appreciate the power of popularity
Good people have a strong feeling and a deep respect for authenticity. They would prefer to have some real friends than a large superficial group.
They do not seek approval or authentication from others, but they are comfortable in their skin. They are not interested in playing social games or engage in surface interactions just to fit.
This may limit the number of their loved ones, but the friendship they develop is meaningful based on deep and understanding.
Their kindness is not friends to win friends, but their character who are they are. And that’s really beautiful thing.
By accepting the journey
If you see yourself in this behavior, know that. Aren’t you alone?
Being kind but having less close friends is not a shortcoming. It’s just a part of your unique journey. You someone who appreciates the validity, depth and balance in a relationship, and there is something incredibly beautiful.
But remember, self is a powerful tool.
Take small steps to change. Maybe it defines a border by expressing your feelings, or by allowing yourself to bend on others for a change. Maybe just admits that it’s good to have less but deeper friendships.
And most importantly, being kind to others begins to be kind.
So here’s a unique trip to your kindness and friendship. Remember, it’s not about the number of what you have. It’s about the quality of your friendships you developed and each of them brings the identity.
You are just doing fine. Continue to be you.