We all admire humility. It is a feature that gives people the opportunity to work and well respected.
But sometimes what it seems like humility on the surface is actually something else, low self-esteem.
The difference is achieved by trust.
True humility allows you to recognize your strengths without arrogance. On the other hand, low self-esteem can disguise itself as a modest while actually keeping you back.
It’s easy to make a mistake to make certain behaviors as signs of being humble when they actually come from self-confidence.
Recognition of the right can help you show you more confidently in your jobs and relationships without losing the qualities you like.
Here are seven behaviors that may seem humility, but they are actually signs of low self-esteem.
1) Reducing your achievements
It’s great to be humble, but brushing your achievements is not a sign of modesty. It is a sign of low self-esteem.
You can think that you are just polite when you say: “Oh, nothing” or “I just got lucky” after a big victory.
But over time, this habit tells others (and yourself) that your hard work and talent do not really matter.
Confident people can recognize their success without arrogance.
They are not exaggerating the need to exaggerate, but they do not shrink too to be comfortable with others.
Recognition of your achievements does not mean that you are unprecedented means you have your value.
2) Excessively apologetic
I said “sorry” all the time, so the people started to point out that.
If someone interrupted me in a meeting, I apologize for “too much to talk.” If the waiter brought me in the wrong order, I would say “sorry” before asking for the right thing.
Even when something was not my fault, my instinct would first apologize.
At first, I thought this was just polite.
However, when the time passed, I realized that asking for a constant apology was not a sign of humility. It was a sign that I didn’t think I had the right to take a place.
Sorry to hurt when you actually made an error, but if you apologize for yourself for something to apologize, it’s time to ask yourself.
Confident people belong to their presence without feeling guilty of it.
3) Refusal of compliments
When someone makes you compliment, you accept it or immediately distract it.
The compliments of the brush may seem like a way to bow, but it actually signals low self-esteem.
Instead of saying “thank you”, people who have self-doubt often respond “Oh, it’s not big” or “anyone could do it.”
People who fight with self-esteem have more difficult times, as they face their negative self-registration.
However, rejecting compliments simply does not affect you. It also makes the man who compliments awkward, as if their words are important.
Trust is not about searching for authentication, but it means to let yourself know.
The next time someone complimenting you, try a simple “thank you” and leave it.
4) Avoiding credit for your work
Teamwork is important, but the loan of yourself is not humble, it is confident in camouflage.
Low self-esteem often reduces their investments, saying that “it was really team effort” or “I didn’t do much.”
Before the issues of cooperation, pretending you could not force you to observe others to view your value.
This habit can keep this habit with you in professional settings.
If you never recognize your investments, people can assume you did not contribute at all.
Confident people recognize the team’s efforts and their own without feeling guilty.
There is nothing wrong with your job.
Having your role doesn’t do anything from others, it just shows that you respect what you bring to the table.
5) Exciting yourself too much
Saying “no” or making a simple decision should not feel a crime, but for some reason it can.
Instead of making a clear answer, you can feel the need to justify yourself with a long-term explanation, almost as if you ask for permission.
Disturbing an invitation. You just don’t say. “I can’t do it,” you start in the list of reasons.
Asking for help. You are sure to clarify that you really tried everything first, so no one thought you were incapable.
This habit often comes from people’s disappointing fear or finds difficult.
However, confident people do not feel the need to overcome, because they trust that their decisions are valid without the need to persuade anyone.
6) Avoiding disagreement
Disagreeing with someone doesn’t mean you’re rude or difficult, but if you have low self esteem can feel that way.
People who confidently struggle often go out of their way to avoid their conflict, even when they have a valid point.
They will bump in conversations to keep their opinion back or say, “It doesn’t matter to me.”
But here is the truth. Your prospect matters.
Confident people know that they can disagree with respect without damaging a relationship.
They are not afraid to talk because they trust that their voice is as valuable as anyone else.
To stay silent, it may seem easier to choose, but in the long run it only strengthens the feeling that you think is important.
7) Take yourself to
There is nothing generous to be generous, but constantly prioritizing everyone’s needs. Your own needs, it is self harm.
Low self-esteemed people often feel guilty to set boundaries or doing things for themselves.
They say yes when they want to say no, more than they can handle, and they must wait.
It’s always the last time you make yourself a better person. It makes you exhaust.
Confident people understand that caring about them is necessary.
Humility should not come to your own account
Humility is a valuable feature, but when it starts to reduce your trust, it doesn’t serve you anymore.
Psychologists have found that low self-esteem can shape the form presented to ourselves, often without us, even realizing it.
Behavior, such as praise, avoiding credit or apologizing can seem harmless, but they enhance the belief that we deserve less than others.
True confidence is not about arrogance. It’s about balance.
You can be humble, while you still know your value. You can further enhance others without being offended yourself.
Most importantly, you can show kindness without forgetting that you deserve respect.