I admire for years with human behavior. Why do we do the way we do, how do we communicate, and what do our words reveal? I spent a lot of time in the study of emotional intelligence and maturity.
And one thing I have learned. Emotional animal people have a fairly clear way of speaking, especially when things don’t go their way.
There are certain expressions that they tend to use that distract responsibility, manipulate emotions or close conversations. After knowing them, you start to see them everywhere.
In this article, I will go to seven common expressions emotionally unspeakable women who tend to use when they are upset according to psychology.
Let’s dive.
1) “You’re Just Dramatic”
I’ve heard this phrase more times than I can count, and if you have too, you know how frustrated.
When an emotionally animal woman does not get its way, she can reject your feelings by calling you “dramatic”. It is a way to close the conversation and avoid responsibility for how his actions affect others.
Instead of hearing or understanding, he is invalidating your emotions, which makes you feel that the problem has happened, but your reaction.
Psychologists call this emotional invalid, and over time it may be incredibly damaged. When someone constantly tells you that your feelings are not important, you can start questioning yourself and suppress your emotions to avoid conflict.
If you often hear this phrase, take a step and know what it is for. A defense mechanism. Emotional mature people are driving disagreement by recognizing feelings and working through them not by removing them.
2) “Wow, I guess I am the worst man in the world”
I remember having a conversation with one I dating a few years ago. I brought something that bothered me no big, just a little problem I thought we could work.
Before I could finish explaining, he sighed sharply and said: “Wow, I guess I’m just the worst man in the world, huh.”
Suddenly the conversation was no longer about that issue. He was about to comfort him, trusting him that he was not a bad man and completely refused what I wanted to apply from the beginning.
This is a classic example of emotional manipulation. Instead of assuming responsibility or involving a mature discussion, the emotionally unhealthy person will flee the scenario and make themselves suffer.
If you often face this phrase, recognize what it is. A way to distort the conversation and avoid accountability. The mature answer would be calmly to the discussion to return to the real problem instead instead of entering the blame tactics.
3) “If you really care about me, you …”
I used to have a friend who would say all this. If I did not agree with him or do what he wanted immediately, he would hit me “If you really cared for me, you would …” and then introduce it in the moment.
Once he wanted me to cancel the plans that I had prepared weeks, just spending time with him because he was feeling.
When I said I couldn’t, but I would be happy to meet the next day, he sighed and said: “If you were actually a good friend.”
At first, I felt guilty, I might have been a really bad friend. But over time, I realized that it was not about friendship or care. It was an emotional manipulation.
This phrase revolves love and loyalty in commitment. Instead of respecting your borders, the emotionally unhealthy person will use sin to get their way, making it “no” meaning that you don’t care about them.
Real relationships. Whether friendship or romances. Do not act on guilt or ultimatums. A mature person understands that love is not about blind compliance. It’s about mutual respect and understanding.
4) “I don’t apologize until you admit that you were wrong”
Such an answer is a classic sign of emotional deficiency. Instead of assuming responsibility for their actions, emotionally incapacitated people often apologize to negotiations. It’s not about preparing things right. It’s about keeping their pride intact.
Studies support this. A study published in the magazine of social and personal relationships found that people who struggle with emotional maturity often apologize for their self-image, not as a tool for repairing a relationship.
In other words, for some people, “I’m sorry” I feel that he defeats. So they avoid it or demand something.
But that’s what it is. Healthy relationships are not about holding an estimate. A mature person understands that apologizing does not mean to give strength. This means that the relationship is enough to take responsibility.
5) “Do you fail it”
I used to have a relationship where I was concerned, I would hear the same answer. “You’re overthrowing that.”
At first I believed in it. I thought I might have read a lot of things in things or don’t do anything in large quantities. But over time, I realized what was really happening. My feelings were relieved before you were even considered.
This phrase is often used as a means of closing conversations and avoiding accountability. Instead of resolving the issue, the emotionally unhealthy person will make you feel what the problem has happened is that you are thinking about what happened.
Of course, sometimes we fail things. But there is a big difference between real trust and emotional invalidity. The mature person will hear and talk to you.
The animal will hinder your concerns so that they are dealing with them.
6) “I’m done talking about this”
I once had a close friend who would close every difficult conversation “I have done this to talk about this.”
It doesn’t matter that the issue was not resolved or if I had something important to say. Once he was uncomfortable, the conversation was over. No discussion, no compromise, just climb a wall.
At first I thought she was just a time to develop things, but I soon realized that this was an example. Any time requires a conversation or responsibility, he simply refused to engage. And it left me to feel unattractive and disappointed.
Famous psychologist John Zone treats it as a stone site, a defensive mechanism where someone turns off communication instead of working through the conflict.
Mature person understands that awkward conversations are needed for healthy relationships.
Walking can feel easier at this point, but the real emotional growth comes from listening, involved and working through harsh discussions, avoiding them.
7) “I was just joking”
Would you like a joke just a joke harmless, isn’t it? But sometimes it’s actually something else.
I have been in situations when someone was painful. Maybe don’t dig in my insecurity or passive-aggressive remarks, and when I reacted, they immediately came back “I just kidding.”
Psychologists call this sarcastic aggression, and research has shown that people who often use humorous to mask criticism or hostility often fight emotionally. In other words, they use “jokes” as a means of negative expression without any consequences.
So what can you do? Instead of brushing or laughing uncomfortably instead, try to answer: “I don’t find that fun.” This makes it clear that you set the limit without entering or allowing them to blame you.
How to react to emotional deficiency
Recognition of these expressions is the first step, but what do you do when you hear them?
The main thing is to remain calm and set clear bounds. Instead of emotional response, try to answer with statements such as:
- “I would like to have a real conversation about this.”
- “I am open to discuss this, but I will not deal with sin.”
- “I understand that you are upset, but that doesn’t mean that my feelings are not valid either.”
Emotional disabling people often use these phrases to divert, operate or avoid reporting. Reasonable and confirming your boundaries, you take away their strength to control the conversation.
Most importantly, remember this. You are not responsible for changing one who is not willing to grow. Focus on you to surround you with people who respect your feelings and communicate with honesty and maturity.