Navigating social situations can be a difficult task.
We’ve all been there to say that we think it’s deep or funny, only need to meet with awkward silence or forced laugh.
What is wrong? Well, often, that’s not what we say, but how do we say that it’s a problem?
People with poor social skills often use phrases they believe are engaged or effective, but in reality they can go out as funny or awkward.
In this article, I will share seven expressions that people with less stellar social skills love to use without realizing how they sound.
The goal is not to shame or criticize, but help us all become more self-employed and authentic in our interactions.
Remember. Improving your social skills is part of personal growth and can greatly improve your personal brand.
1) “Just by saying …”
Now we have all used this phrase at some point.
It is a great way to make an idea or opinion without sounding too convincing.
But people with poor social skills often abuse this phrase using it as a shield to hide behind controversial or offensive remarks.
The problem can get it out as a rejection, sincere or passive aggressive.
This, in turn, can lead to awkward conversations and tense relations.
The reality is if you have something worth saying it is more deserved than a clogged “just saying” at the end.
Be sure, be careful and stand by your words.
It can make different changes to the world of how you face others.
Remember that validity and self-esteem are important when it comes to the construction of a personal brand that really reflects who you are.
Let’s flood the “just saying” and start talking about that important.
2) “No offense, but …”
If there is one phrase that shivers down from the bottom of the spine is this.
I remember once, during the team meeting, a partner began to “not being insulted, but …” and can you bet me to catch me?
See people with poor social skills often use this phrase, thinking that it will alleviate a tough statement.
Spoiler Alert. In fact, this is the opposite.
It raises protection and makes a negative atmosphere even the performance of the real point.
In my case, my partner’s feedback could be constructively accepted, but the choice of his words makes me defending me, making the conversation very uncomfortable than it should be.
We must all have a responsibility to respond to our lives, it is an integral part of growth.
But how do we do that, can greatly affect our relationships and our personal brand?
Let’s say goodbye to “no insults but …” and hello constructive, respectful responses.
3) “I’m not a racist, but …”
This phrase is a red flag.
Although it appears to be clear to many of us, some people do not yet realize how the stem and insulting sound.
Interestingly, people who reject their comment through refusal are perceived as more biased listeners than those without rejection.
In other words, the use of this phrase does not lose the offensive statement that makes you seem more biased.
It is important to remember that our words reflect who we are and create an important part of our personal brand.
Instead, using phrases to announce prejudice, let’s try to understand, tolerance and respect in our conversations.
4) “I’m just honest …”
Honesty is virtue, of course.
But when this phrase is used as a preface, it often signals a rough or offensive interpretation of an impending or “truth.”
People with poor social skills often use “I’m just honest …” as a license to be a thumb or insensitive under the guise of the truth.
This approach may damage relationships and make interactions uncomfortable.
It is a delicate balance. Honesty should never be used as an inadmissible or disrespectful justification.
The truth must be said, it is always possible to provide honest with tactics and compassion.
After all, our words and actions reflect those who we are. They form our reputation and personal brand.
5) “You didn’t understand …”
I remember a conversation with a friend where I opened it about stress I was feeling out of work.
Instead of offering support or compassion, he answered. “You didn’t understand, but my job is much more stressful.”
Now people with poor social skills often use this phrase to invalidate others or “who is worse.”
This phrase not only closed the conversation, but it also divides the speaker and listeners.
It left me that dismissed and unused feelings that do not contribute to a strong relationship.
In our growth and personal brand journey, let’s remember that everyone’s experience is unique and valid.
We need to strive to create an atmosphere of understanding and compassion in our conversations than comparisons.
6) “You always …” or “You never …
These phrases are often used during arguments or disagreements.
These are absolute statements that can force the listener to attack and feel defensive, not the recipe for constructive conversation.
Using “always” or “never” exaggerated situations and leaves no place to change.
It’s as if you put a label on someone that can hurt the relationship.
Instead of using these absolute conditions, try to describe how you feel about special actions or situations.
This approach promotes understanding and opens space for growth and change.
After all, our relationship plays a big role in who we are and how we are perceived.
7) “What?”
This single word phrase may seem harmless, but it can be one of the most reliable expressions used in conversations.
“Whatever” can often affect a lack or concern of interest for the thoughts or feelings of the other person.
It closes the dialogue and shows that it is necessary to deal with or the shortage of readiness to compromise.
The most important thing to remember is our words have force.
They can build or tear the relationship, show respect or signal contempt and open or close them.
In our search for authentic communication and personal growth.
How do we treat others at the end of the day?
The essence. Everything is about growth
Examining the world of communication is fascinating and how certain expressions can affect our interaction.
We have discussed the expressions of the “Craft”. They often derive from compassion or lack of mutual understanding.
But the good news is that compassion can learn and improve with conscious efforts and practice.
When we sail our social interactions, let’s try to replace these expressions that contribute to understanding and respect.
Let’s go to develop an empathetic approach to communication.
By doing so, we will improve our personal brand, but we will also deepen a stronger and real relationship.
The next time you are in conversation, pause, reflect and choose your words wisely. Your words reflect who you are.