We often listen to the phrase “I’m just introverted”. It’s a comfortable, easy stick to slap when we don’t feel like that they are around them to communicate or open.
But hold for a second.
What if your experience is not actually intrusive? What if it’s around you built a protective membrane to make emotional damage at sea?
That’s right
Sometimes we confuse worries about being emotionally protected. You may think that you prefer solitude when it really is a defensive mechanism to avoid vulnerability.
In this article we are going to study seven marks that are not actually introverted, you are not emotionally protected. Everything is better and growing better than us.
So if you have found you often retreating your shell and you are interested in whether it’s a normal part of your personality or something completely different.
Come some misconceptions and help you equate you with your true self.
1) Do you feel drained with social interactions but not for the reasons you think
It is a common feature of introverts, a sense of drainage after social interactions. This is often attributed to the form of introverts’ processing information and stimuli, which is internal.
But there is a turn.
If you find social interactions you bother you because you are constantly guarded or worrying to say the wrong thing, it can be a sign that is not emotionally protected.
It’s about it. You are tired because you process a lot of information and incentives. Or are you exhausted because you are trying to keep your walls avoiding vulnerability at any cost?
See the difference. It’s fine but significant. Understanding this difference can be an important step towards destroying these walls and promoting real ties.
2) You have a habit to remove people
Have you ever found people away even when they didn’t do anything wrong? I know I have.
Let me tell you an example.
A few years later, I met this amazing man during a professional event. They were smart, kind, and we shared such interests. We truly passed well and they tried to deepen our friendship.
But for some reason I resisted.
I told myself I didn’t have time for new companies. That I was just too absorbed for more relationships. But looking back, I realize that it is not about being introverted at all.
I was afraid. Afraid of being vulnerable to fear being damaged. So I left them before they could be very close.
Is familiar.
If you do it, you are probably not an introvert, emotionally protected. You do not avoid people because you are introverted. You avoid emotional intimacy because it scares you.
3) You find excuses to avoid deep conversations
Here is a confession. I have always been a master of small conversations. Whether it’s about the weather, the last sports game or slight gossip. I’m covered.
But when the rumors begin to fall into deeper waters, everything is complicated.
Suddenly I find I’m looking for an escape path. A quick look at my watch, sudden urgent call or classic “I have to use the toilet” justification. It’s not like I don’t like meaningful conversations. Actually I am longing for them. But they also terrify me.
Why
Because deep conversations require vulnerability. They demand me from me to allow my guard and I usually hide it under the slices of self-defense. And that’s a scary.
So if you’re like me, constantly drowning deep connections, remain on the surface level Chit-Chat, maybe your intramural nature is not. It can be that you are emotionally protected by protecting you from potential emotional anxiety.
4) Do you struggle with expressing your feelings?
Feelings. It is complex, complex, messy things that make us human. I have often found that I struggle to express them.
It’s not like I’m not feeling emotions. Quite the opposite. I feel deeply, intensively. But putting those feelings in words, expressing them to others, it’s where the struggle is.
You can appear in such shoes.
Perhaps you are especially difficult to open your feelings about others, not because you are shy or intrigriotic, but you are afraid that you have been judged or misunderstood.
You can worry that revealing your real emotions you open yourself to hurt or reject yourself. But remember, it’s normal to have these fears. It does not allow you; It makes you a man.
The next time you find that you keep your feelings from expressing your feelings, be a moment to reflect. Is it really because of the invasion of whether it’s because you put you put on you to protect yourself emotionally?
5) You always control
Control – this is a powerful concept, isn’t it? Being our lives, our decisions, and our relationship gives us a sense of security and comfort.
It is interesting that research has shown that individuals who need a high need to control often show emotional behavior.
Think about it.
If you always have to control, it can be because you are trying to protect yourself from uncertainty or emotional tribulations. It is easier to manage your own reactions and behaviors than to predict or deal with anyone else.
Thus, if you notice that it is always desirable to control your interactions with others, especially when it comes to emotional issues or deep conversations, consider it. Can you just be protected emotionally?
6) You are fastening to walls, not bridges
Building walls around our hearts can sometimes experience the safest thing. It keeps the possibility of pain and frustration in Bay. I get it, I’ve been there too.
It’s like living in the castle. It feels safe and comfortable. But it also keeps good stuff – warmth, communication, intimacy.
If you find yourself often than to build bridges, remember this. It’s okay. You’re not alone and that doesn’t mean you’re flawless or broken.
Just suggests that you can adjust your emotions more. It should not be about to invade. We are talking about self-defense from potential emotional damage.
Recognizing it can be the first step to lower those walls, even if it’s a little bit small. Remember, it’s good to allow people to let. You don’t always have to wear alone.
7) You are comfortable with distance
Here’s the way emotional distance can feel safe. It is like a buffer zone, protecting you from potential injury and frustration. But it also prevents you from creating deeper connections with others.
If you find you keeping this distance with even close friends or family, maybe it can’t be because you are introverted. It can be a sign that you are emotionally protected.
It is good to defend yourself, but remember, the vulnerability is not weak. It is the birthplace of communication and intimacy. So don’t be afraid to get out of your comfort zone and let others. That’s where the magic happens.
By accepting the journey to the vulnerability
So you have recognized the signs and are ready to change? Remember that realizing that you are emotionally protected, not intruded, the first step towards a more real life.
Hugging vulnerability may seem awful. It’s like an unfamiliar space without a map. But trust me, it’s worth traveling.
Start small. Share an honest opinion, feel that you usually don’t give up on a personal dream or fear. At first it may feel uncomfortable, but you will find it easier in the event of each step.
Remember, it’s not about changing the word about who you are; It’s about the breakdown of obstacles that prevent you from being your most real self.
And here’s a beautiful part. When you start lowering your guard, you will notice a change in your relationship. They will deepen, they will become more meaningful. You will make stronger connections and experience the self-confidence.
So take your time. Be patient with yourself. It’s a journey of self-discovery and growth, not a race.
And most importantly, remember this. Being vulnerable to yourself is not a sign of weakness. It’s an act of courage. It’s about embracing yourself, emotions, fears, dreams, and everyone else is true in your relationship.
Who knows you can just discover yourself to a brand new side waiting for unleash, one that is based on authenticity and courage. And that’s really a special thing.