The navigation of any relationship lifts and decreases can be a difficult business, especially when you are not sure what you feel, normal, or a sign that something is not right.
Do you see that there is a fine between the location for each other and too much to your partner? The latter is what we call an allevent example, a destructive example, where you lose yourself in the world of your partner, leaving a small place for personal growth and self-consciousness. And guess what? It can rob you without even realizing it.
As the founder of love communication, I have seen that countless relations suffer from this harmful dynamics. And let me tell you it is not always easy to spot. But don’t worry. I have returned to your back.
In this article I am going to share with you the seven subtle signs that dependence can destroy your relationship.
1) You are constantly striving for approval
It’s not nice to make a good job for repayment on the back. Absolutely but when you find yourself in a constant need for your partner’s approval for every little thing, that’s when problems start.
In a compatible relationship, your self-esteem is directly related to your partner’s authentication.
Whether he chooses what to wear in the morning, deciding to watch a film or even in the grocery store. You are able to make a decision without their introduction.
This constant need for authentication can be exhaustive for both you and your partner. It puts off excessive pressure on your relationship and interferes with your personal growth.
Recognition of this behavior may be the first step in change, which allows you to restore control over your decisions and develop your self-esteem on their own.
2) Your happiness depends on their mood
In a healthy relationship, it is natural to feel compassionate to your partner’s emotions. But in the co-founder relationship, this sympathy turns into a complete absorption of their emotional state.
Imagine this. Your partner comes home after a rough day and suddenly your day becomes bad too. Their happiness becomes your happiness. Their anxiety, your anxiety.
You may think that this deep level of compassion is a sign of caring and supportive, but it can actually show unhealthy coercion.
Anti-Armenian, it’s not about how much you care about your partner’s feelings. It’s about to lose your ability to maintain your emotional independence.
This lack of emotional border prevents you as an individual and can lead to an unhealthy pattern in your relationship.
3) You have lost sight of your own interests
Remember that the cooking class has always wanted to join. Or that hiking trip you planned with your friends. If you find that you are constantly blowing your interests to equate with your partner, it’s time to get back.
In a compatible relationship, it is common to lose sight of your own hobbies and interests. Can you find yourself things you’ve never really enjoyed just because they are your partner’s preferences?
I have met many people who don’t remember the last time they didn’t remember the last time they really loved something. It is a delicate sign of the army, but it’s serious.
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4) You make sacrifices without compensation
The sacrifice is part of any relationship. We often go out to make our partners happy. But what happens when you’re the only one, sacrifices?
In a compatible relationship you may find it always bent backward to meet your partner’s needs often at your own account.
You cancel the plans, giving up your dreams and choices, you are not fully convenient.
As Doctor Martin Luther King Jr. once said. “A person can’t swim behind you until he turns.” In other words, allowing unilateral sacrifices in the relations allows a place to operate.
I remember a time when I have ever needed others before I believe what love means. But over time, I realized that a healthy relationship requires a balance to give and take on both sides.
So take a moment and ask yourself. You are the only one that makes sacrifices. If so can be a sign that dependents crawl in your relationship.
5) You ignore red flags
We’ve all been there to ignore certain qualities or actions of our partners that are worried about, thinking that it is all in love. But when these red flags begin to be tiled, you are consistently brushing them, it’s time to notice.
In a compatible relationship, you may find that you are constantly excuses for your partner’s behavior, no matter how long it may be in demand.
This is not about control from time to time. It is consistently ignoring significant problems because you are afraid of swinging the ship.
I remember a time when I would release my partner’s permanent need in control because he is “protective”. But over time, I realized that I justify the behavior that were clear red flags.
It is important to manage the solution of these problems. Ignoring them will not disappear. Instead, it can lead to deeper trouble.
6) You feel responsible for your partner’s actions
One wise man once said: “You can’t pour over the empty cup.” It can’t be more accurate when it comes to relationships. If you are constantly responsible for your partner’s actions, emotions or decisions, it can start leaving you emotionally and physically.
In a compatible relationship you may find you always walking to correct your partner’s problems or feel guilty. But everyone is responsible for their actions and emotions.
You can support your partner, but you can’t live their lives for them.
I used to feel guilty if my partner had a bad day thinking that my responsibility was to make everything better. But I learned that I can’t manage someone else’s emotions or actions, nor need.
This is a significant sign of co-founding, which is often unnoticed. So if it’s resonance with you, it may be time to reassess your relationship dynamics.
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7) You are afraid to be alone
Let’s keep it real here. How many times have you been left in a relationship, not because it does you, but you are afraid to be alone? This fear, before the total, can often be a sign of a co-founder.
The mind of your own in a compatible relationship looks awful. You can find you sticking to a relationship even when it doesn’t serve you well. This fear comes from a lack of self-esteem and self-confidence.
It took me some time to realize it in my own life. It is a hard pill to swallow, but realize it can be a significant first step towards overcoming the co-foundity.
So take a moment and ask yourself. You stay because you really want, or because you are afraid to be alone. If it is the last, it may be time to work on self-esteem and independence.
Way to self-esteem and independence
A journey for a healthy relationship can be difficult. Recognition of fine marks is the first step, but the road forwards to your personal identity, promoting self-love and emotional flexibility.
Remember, we are talking about breaking ties with your partner or becoming too self. It’s about finding a balance that both allows you to grow as individuals, while still feed your connection as a couple.
The famous author and philosopher, Albert Kamus once said. “In order to be happy, we should not be very worried about others.”
It can be played rough at first glance, but it points to overcoming the result of overcoming the result. It’s not about ignoring your partner’s needs, but to give your own priority to learn.
I have had my fair share with the co-foundering and trust me when I say that making these changes are not only possible, but also deeply rewarding. This leads to a healthier relationship, a stronger feeling and more performance.
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He discusses the complications of finding a life partner and reflects his personal experience, offering valuable ideas that coincide in this article.
Remember, the change begins in. It is about who you are talking about who you are and realize that we all have the potential to grow, change and establish healthy relations.