Relationships with Narcissists can be complicated, to put it mildly. Now imagine the moment they realize that you have stopped caring, it can be a game-changer.
When the Narcussian feels the change of your feelings, their behavior changes dramatically. They are masters to read emotions and exploit them. But what happens when they realize that they are no longer a center of your universe?
In this article, we are going to study seven things that do narcissists when they are watching the fact that you have stopped caring.
As a relationship expert, I have seen it all. From the delicate manipulations of Grand Gestures, the Narcissus will pass to large lengths to restore your attention and admiration.
But here’s what. The understanding of this behavior is vital to maintaining your self-esteem. It is not only about the solution of Narcissism. It’s about staying faithful to yourself and your values.
Let’s study these seven behaviors together.
1) They will try to restore control
Narcussists blossom control. It is their dominance to certify their dominance and maintain their exaggerated self-image.
But when they feel that you have stopped caring, it sends a clear message. They lose their catch on you. This is something that a narcissar cannot handle.
In response, they will start a number of tactics aimed at monitoring. This can be through emotional manipulation, guilty or even threatening behavior.
The key key here does not fall for this Ploys. Remember that these are desperate attempts to suppress them to return to power. Don’t let them disrupt your decision at a distance of yourself.
Staying strong in your determination will strengthen your personal limits and will stimulate your self-esteem, despite the emotional whirlpool, which can cause a narcissent.
2) they will be pleasant
This may seem counterattack, but yes, the narcissists can turn the magic when they realize that you have stopped caring.
Suddenly they are careful, attentive and kind, everything you want to start from the beginning. This drastic change can be distorted and confused.
Is it a real reset? Sadly, the answer is usually not. It’s an action, last pilot efforts to return you.
As a bewilderment, how can it be, it is very important to be discolored in this sudden wave of subtlety. It is a manipulation of manipulation for them to restore their lost attention and admiration.
Keep firmly on your decision and remember why you stopped caring first. This will help you stay justified and true to your values, even when the narcissist seems to change their colors.
3) they will play the victim
Narcissists have a knife to play the victim. When they realize that you have stopped being caring, they can start depicting themselves as a mistake. Suddenly you are a bad boy and they leave the injuries.
This can be a difficult situation to navigate. It is easy to start suspect yourself, interrogate your decisions and even feel guilty.
In my book, breaking the app. How to overcome code dependence in your relationship, I look at this tactic and offer strategies how to effectively handle.
Falling for the affected card is just another way to restore the narcissus to control. It is important to stay strong and not allow them to guilt travel to you from your decision.
Having strongly understand your self-esteem and understanding that you are not responsible for your feelings, the key to your emotional health and independence.
4) They will try to get you jealous
Here’s another amazing tactic that a narcissent can work when they realize that you have stopped caring. They can try to get you jealous. Suddenly they have new best friends or they spend a lot of time with someone you know.
Purpose. To make you feel that you are missing. To feel less. To make you want them to return to your life. It’s a game for them and they bet on your insecurities.
But here’s a piece of wisdom I have kept over the years. It quotes from Roosevelt. “No one can force you without feeling inferior to your consent.”
This cannot be more true in such situations. Don’t give them to see the satisfaction of being jealous or upset. You are more than their games, and your value is not defined by their actions.
Remembering that it can help you maintain your emotional balance and personal dignity in such a manipulative tactics.
5) They will become indifferent
This one can be a hard pill to swallow. Sometimes when the Narcussian realizes that you have stopped caring, they will become indifferent. They will act as you never had as they are completely reckless of your withdrawal.
It is a defense mechanism, a means of protecting their ego from a sting of rejection. But let me tell you that it is their most relicized tactics.
During the years of working with Narcissistic relations, I have seen that this scenario has repeatedly opened. It is a pity, it is confusing, but it is also incredibly discovering their true nature.
Your value is not defined by their indifference. The lack of concern is a reflection of your value, but it is really about to connect with others and make them feel sorry for their inability to sympathize.
It is difficult to stay strong in such situations, but it is also a testimony to your flexibility and self-esteem. You are worth more than their indifference.
6) They will spread rumors about you
When the Narcussian realizes that you have stopped caring, they can turn to spread or talk negatively to others. This is their way to restore control and manipulate history.
Although insulting to hear that someone is spreading a lie about you, it is important to remember a sum that I have found especially empowering. Maya Angelu once said:
I have faced my fair share of gossip and rumors. It’s never easy, but remembering that these words helped me to climb me and remain faithful to who I am.
The main thing is not weak that their words affect your self-esteem or question your decisions. You know your truth and it’s important.
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7) They will move quickly
This is a raw, honest truth that can bite. When the Narcussian realizes that you have stopped caring, they can move amazingly. It’s like you have never been and they have found someone new to capture your place.
Is a difficult figure of the face. Can you question yourself and the authenticity of your share? But keep in mind that this is not a reflection of your value, but also to form their inability to form deep emotional connections.
Their new one is new is new, the way of creating your absence is to fill the voice, they do not want to resist. It is the mechanism of overcoming them to ensure them that they always have someone to feed their ego and wait for their needs.
Keep your self-development in these difficult times. Your value does not decrease based on their inability to see it. You are just a substitute pawnshop in someone else’s game.
You are more than that.
Final Thoughts:
Navigating the complications of the relationship with Narcissists can be an emotional base. When you reach the point of caring, changes in their behavior can be confusing, offensive and sometimes even counteract.
Through all this, it is very important to remember that their actions are a reflection of your value, but rather the inability to create their insecurity and deep emotional connections.
As a relationship expert in my journey I have met uncountable such stories. They are raw, they are real, and they are evidence for individuals’ stability who have self-confidence in manipulation.
I want to leave you with this insightful video by Justin Brown. It is extinguished to find a partner in life, addressing common values and increased relationships.
I believe that this is beautifully complementing our discussion and will provide you with further food.
Staying yourself faithful not only against external challenges. It’s about hugging your value to stay on these trials and stay tall in your authenticity.
I hope you understood this article and I invite you to continue this journey with me because we study more about relationships and personal growth more.