Sometimes, it is very easy to miss the fine signs that you are more absorbed than you think. Can you assume that is exactly who you are, particularly unusual, but you need yourself regularly to explain deeply?
Today I want to walk you with seven things you may not even think that you are doing, because you are more released to life on the side of life. I hope it will help you to see with new simplicity, knowing nothing bad with you, and find out how to balance these natural tendencies in your relationship and career.
I just mention before you jump. I have worked with many individuals who identify as introverts in the practice of my relationship advice. And I can’t say how many times they share worries such as “I’m very quiet.” Or “Why do I feel about so dried social events when my extroverts are still energy dancing?”
So, if any of these items are resonancing, be sure you are in good company.
1: You retreat to internal and lose time
You may not have any information about how much time you spend in your head. Have you ever absorbed in your own thoughts, analyzing the conversation, dreaming of a new project, or just for the day’s events only in half an hour?
Once upon a time, I had a whole flight from New York to Chicago, who looked at the window, so he lost my own imagination that I only noticed the flight attendant to understand.
I didn’t even read music or listen. I was just deep in my own mental landscape. It is the behavior of a signature introvert. We thrive in flourishing, even when we seem to be “nothing”.
Such a retreat is not about ignoring the world around you. Word will naturally turn into recharge. In fact, today the psychology staff highlighted that introverts often need loneliness to develop the experience of the day.
If this is familiar, you can just give your brain when it is necessary to reflect and recharge.
2. You are watching more than you are participating (at first)
Imagine yourself in a social assembly. You stand in the corner or slowly make your way with a buffet, the eyes scan the room. You can collect Intel on the crowd. What rumors occur to those who look access to the group you want to join?
This is actually a great feature for deep connections. Stopping watching, you collect the energy of the room. You can see someone who sits alone and approaches them, or you can find out the topic of conversation, which is maxedly resonated with you.
Susan Cain who wrote Calm down. The power of the interior in a world that can’t stop talkingIndicates how introverts often exceed active listening. We are who collect delicate emotional signs in group settings.
In other words, you may not even realize that you do it. It just feels your default setting. And can you question why you are the first to be linked to the center of the crowd? The truth is that you just take time to determine where (and how) you want to introduce your energy.
3: You are talking about your chapter feedback
I have heard it so many people who are more absorbed than they realize.
It can be a meeting at work, a chat with friends, or even one-one-heart heart. You sort calmly through your ideas, making sure you are saying what you mean.
In my advisory sessions, I saw that some individuals literally form their lips words, silently before they actually speak. It’s a fascinating little dance in mind.
Therapy returns to this issue, saying that introverts often need more time to make answers, especially the issues charged open or emotionally. This is not a drawback. It is your mind, providing thoughtful ideas, not to impulse.
4. You are pulling toward deep, one-one interaction
If you read my post to develop a meaningful relationship (I mentioned it for a while), you know that I am a huge believer than a wide, superficial.
The peculiarity of the invasion of my experience is that heartfelt conversations over small conversations. Maybe you don’t realize how much you communicate relationships to depth, but if you stop and reflect, you can notice that you’re a friend who is asking. ” “How is the weather?”
This preference often indicates the method of socializing. Large events can feel overwhelming, but you become alive with smaller, more intimate parameters. Bren Brown once said: “Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels courage.”
Introverts often longs for that truth, that general vulnerability, as the surface level chat can feel drying or unnoticed. It is our way to connect to a level, which is more meaningful, which can lead to richer and supportive relationships.
5: You choose with social invitations and feel guilty for
One of the biggest traps for the interiors feels guilty when they reject social invitation. Maybe your friends want to go to the bar and while you love them, you just can’t get energy after a long day. You can find that you make sophisticated excuses or seconds, you guess if you have to make yourself go.
In fact, you may not realize how normal it is for someone who is elected to selectively. It is this thought that stands behind all this, noting that introverts are drained and are far from time to time.
It is often mistaken for being anti-social. But there is a difference between antisocialism (unwilling to social communication) and to be elective (choosing fewer interactions). If you feel a sin crawling, remember that protecting your energy is not a crime.
6: You quietly read the emotions in the room
Perhaps years of age have been heard than talking, or maybe this is because, as a more unnoticed person, you have increased your observation skills on the sharp edge of the razor. Whatever reason, you can walk in a meeting or family dinner and immediately feel who is inconvenient who is shrinking, or who just bolts the screw. Almost like the sixth meaning.
Daniel Golman explains to his case about emotional intelligence that many self-esteem often translates to the awareness of others.
Introverts, in particular, spend a lot of time in the invasion, which can increase compassion and to read this little flattery of sadness in someone’s eyes.
You may not understand that you are taping on these emotional nuances, but it’s a key force. It allows you to become a better listener, partner and friend. Covered side is that reading emotional temperature in the room can be exhaustive, so remember that you will sculpt some mental space after that.
7. You need long recovery times after social events
I’m big to keep up to the end, friends. If you find yourself in the post-election event, enjoying memories, but the next day you are tired, this is another sign than the maximum. Even if you love your friends or coefficients, communicating with an extended time can feel the marathon on your mind.
Personally, I have experienced this after attending seminars after attending network events. I can swim at a high level of socialization for some time, but once it’s over, I need to relax my mental muscles.
This is not a sign that you hate the event or people. It just means you use a lot of internal resources to get involved and you need loneliness to recharge those batteries.
Once Michelle Obama said: “Maybe you don’t always have a comfortable life … But you can find a way to live with your own terms.” For introverts, living by our own conditions means planning to plan.
It can mean to read a good book by taking a walk alone, yoga, or just dreaming in silence. The main thing is to recognize and respect that need, not to push yourself and the burning of risk.
Final Thoughts:
In general, these quiet trends are part of what makes you. It is not shy, anti-social or stuck in your bubbles. It needs to have a rich inner world and needs to be recharged.
Recognition of these seven marks can be an eye opening. You can find, saying: “Wow, I really do it.” The more aware of you, the easier it will be to set boundaries, communicate your needs and prosper your natural temperament.
If you are worried that your intrinsic properties keep you with a relationship, work settings or friendship, consider the idea that many properties can be your greatest strength.
You reflect, observer, compassionate and intentionally about how you are connected with others. People can even rely on your stability and the ability to hear deep.
Remember that there is no need to “fix” the invasion. It’s not a drawback. Accept what makes you different. If you need rest, take it. If you prefer small gatherings, arrange them.
If you need time to think a thinking response, don’t apologize for it. This slow, reflective approach there is beauty, and it’s time for us to all admit that it is good, even wonderful to push us otherwise.
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