There are times in life when everything feels … off.
You go through motions, doing what you “assume” to do, but deep down, doesn’t squeeze something, may you tell you if you eventually you’ll see?
But if you are honest, there is a narrow feeling that cannot be shaken, which whispers. “I’ve actually lost.”
The complex part. Most people who feel this way don’t want to accept it.
Instead, they develop certain customs to overcome, avoid, or distract the truth.
Some of these habits seem harmless. Others can even have signs of success, but collectively, they are deeper discovering.
1) They keep busy continually
Never notice how some people always do something.
Their schedules are packed, their homeless lists never end, and they rarely keep just sitting with their thoughts.
At first glance, it seems ambitious, productivity or Go-Getter Mindset.
Sometimes, in fact, it is a way to avoid deep feelings of uncertainty.
When you have lost lost, the last thing you want to slow down and face that awkward truth.
Instead, you fill every moment with work, programs and distractions to attract your mind.
It works for a while, but eventually quiet moments crawl, and that unresolved feeling is coming forward.
2) they constantly change their goals
For a long time I thought I was just an ambitious person with many interests.
One month I was determined to start my own business.
Next, I was convinced that he had to move to a new city.
After that, I was sure that returning to school was the answer.
I felt that I was pursuing the growth, I am always looking for the next interesting thing.
In fact, I didn’t move. I was just running within.
Every time I put a new purpose, it gave me a sense of temporary direction and, every time I refused, I told myself that I just got off.
Looking back, I realize the truth. I don’t pursue dreams.
I was avoiding a bigger question. “What do I really want?”
Because it was very uncomfortable to sit with that uncertainty. I continued to place my attention, hoping that one of those goals would make it everything magically, click on the spot.
But I lost deep down and constantly changing my goals, just the way I was to form.
3) They are late without real reason
There’s something about late night hours that is different.
The world is calm, responsibilities are pause, and there is no pressure effectively.
For many who have lost lost in life, this becomes the most favorite time of the day, not because they are the night, but because they don’t want to come tomorrow.
Psychologists are stretching to sleep in vengeance.
It is when people are delayed sleeping to restore control over time, even if it makes them exhaust the next day.
Instead of sleeping for a reasonable hour instead, they spin endlessly, two-way shows or are lost in random Internet rabbit holes.
Avoiding is not just about fun. It avoids.
Going to sleep means that it faces another day of uncertainty, to wake up another morning without a clear sense of direction.
They stretch at night as long as possible, even when they know it’s not good for them.
4) they are compared to everyone
When you lose lost, it’s easy to assume that everyone is important.
You walk around by social media and see people who land the dreams, traveling around the world, or feeling inspired, you feel that you feel.
Comparison becomes a habit. One that only makes everything worsen.
Each achievement feels other people feel that evidence feel that you are not where you have to be. Every success story reminds you don’t have your own one.
However, no one found everything.
People show their importance, not their doubts and struggle.
The more time you spend to measure your life against someone else, the less time you spend what is really important.
5) They fail each decision
Even the smallest choice can feel overwhelming when you don’t have a clear sense of direction.
Should you take this job? Move to that city. Tell me this opportunity. What if I make a wrong choice and regret later?
I have been stuck there in my head, analyzing every possible outcome, weighs the side and faces, as long as I am fully paralyzed.
Instead of making a decision and move forward, I will stay hard, waiting for a kind of certainty that has never come.
The irony is that there is no decision when you have lost.
Because the real problem is not which way is that you don’t trust yourself to choose one.
So you are hesitant, overrate and second guessing everything … while life keeps moving without you.
6) They give great advice to others
People who have lost lost, often have an amazing skill. They are great to find other people.
Friends come to their advice, and they always seem to say the right thing to say.
They can see a larger picture, offer thoughtful ideas and encourage others to take action.
But when it comes to their lives. That clarity disappears.
I caught me that I do this to someone who I had to listen to someone I had to listen, but when he was fully stuck in my own choice.
Seeing solutions from outside is easier where feelings and self-esteem don’t think, but when you’re in the middle of it, everything feels uncertain.
You continue to help others because it makes you feel useful. It gives you a sense of goals.
However, you know that the solution to everyone’s problems will not correct the fact that you don’t have answers for your own yet.
7) They romanticize “starting”
When life feels uncertain, the idea of cleaning slab can be incredibly tempting.
New city, new job, a new mode that makes everything finally fall.
People who feel lost often on day after day changes.
They tell themselves that if they can just begin with other place, they finally find out things.
This may not be the problem of them, but their environment, their circumstances or people around them.
Truth is. Starting doesn’t make magical simplicity.
No matter where you go or what you change, you still bring you back to you.
If you do not turn to what you really feel lost, those same feelings will eventually catch, no matter how much you run.
8) They say they are good
The most common habit of people who have lost, but do not want to accept it, it is clear. They persuade them to everything is fine.
They go down their doubts, brush their feelings and say they just fail.
They remain busy, chase new goals and continue to move forward, hoping that if they just do more, the uncertainty will disappear on its own.
But ignoring something doesn’t leave.
No amount of deviation or rejection cannot replace something that is actually necessary for honesty.
Why are we a case that can
Nearly all of them live something at some point.
It’s uncomfortable, frustrating and sometimes cowardly. But the hardest part is its feeling. It accepts there.
After stopping everything is fine, you can actually start to find out what is next.
Psychologists say that self-consciousness is the first step in any real change.
You don’t have to have all the answers immediately, you don’t need a perfect plan or a clear path before, and you just need to be honest with yourself where you are now.
From there, slowly but for sure, everything starts to make it more meaningful.