Confidence is a crispy thing in a relationship, more valuable than gold but it’s so easy to spoil.
And often, that’s the little things we do without realizing that precious product.
You may not even realize that you are giving that confidence, but I’m here to tell you like Tina Fay, the founder of the Kindly Blog and your purchase, these little habits can make a huge difference.
In this article, we will present the customs of eight small relations that slowly overwhelm trust without even noticing. These are silent killers, and it’s time for you to light on them.
Stay tuned because this is a conversation we all need to have. Let’s solve it together and keep our relationship strong and trustworthy.
1) Small White Lies
Honesty is the cornerstone of any relationship.
But sometimes we find that let’s say little white lies. Perhaps it is to avoid conflict, or we may think we are defending our partner’s feelings. But causing welfare, this habit can be more harmful than you think.
You see, these seemingly harmless fibers slowly do not cover your relationship trust. Every white lie is like a small crack at the heart of your trust, over time these cracks can become crushers.
Your partner may not even realize why they feel less secure in their relationships, but it can be because they are subconsciously collected on these small dishonest.
So try to be honest, even when it’s hard. This can cause a little discomfort at the moment, but it will lead miracles to maintain trust in the long run.
Remember that trust is built of honesty, not perfection.
2) Lack of open communication
Communication is the blood of the relationship in life. As someone who watched countless relations, I, I, would like to, I, Tina Fey, to testify that the lack of open, honest communication is one of the fastest ways to destroy trust.
Here’s the thing you don’t communicate with your partner, they are left to fill their gaps. And often, the stories we say are much worse than reality.
We begin to doubt, a second guess, and it can lead to a breakdown of trust.
An important advice I always share is nothing but George Bernard Show. He once said: “The only biggest problem in communication is the illusion that happened.”
So talk, tell yourself and make sure you are really heard. Don’t let the illusion of communication destroy trust in your relationship.
3) disrespecting personal limits
Individual boundaries are invisible strings that are defined as individuals, separate from our partners. But sometimes we either consciously or ignore these lines.
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Every time you go through your partner’s limits, you send a message that their feelings and needs do not matter. This can feel them insecure and insecure, which leads to the breakdown of trust.
Pay attention to your partner’s limits. Respect them. If you are not sure about something, ask. It’s always better to have a little uncomfortable conversation now than they have been dealing with trust issues later.
Respecting the borders is not only about being a good partner. It’s about being a good person. And if you want to know more about setting healthy boundaries and to overcome the code, check my book.
It is full of ideas and practical advice that can help you to establish stronger, healthy relationships.
4) Being too pleasing
Now this one may seem to be a little repulsive. After all, you don’t send something good with your partner.
Well, yes and no. Although it is important to be supporting and understanding, it can actually restore relationships.
Being consistently agreeing can feel your partner that you don’t express your real feelings or opinions. They can start questioning if you just tell them what they want to hear, not what you actually think.
This lack of validity may damage confidence. After all, being in a relationship has not always agreed with each other. We are talking about respect and assessment of each other’s opinions, even when they differ from our own.
Don’t be afraid to express your real thoughts and feelings. Trust is built on authenticity, not consent.
5) Failure to keep promises
Promises are similar to invisible bonds that have a relationship together. But every time you break one, it’s like cutting that connection.
I remember a time when I promised my partner I would be home to dinner. Work was late and I didn’t do it. It seemed a small thing for me, but it was not for him. It was not about dinner. It was about a broken promise.
It taught me a valuable lesson. Even small promises are important. Each broken promise no matter how small, chips for your partner trust.
So don’t make a light promise. And do once, do everything in your forces to keep them. It is one of the strongest ways to build and maintain trust in your relationship.
6) avoiding tough conversations
No one enjoys having awkward conversations. But sometimes they are necessary.
When we avoid these tough negotiations, we actually bury our problems under carpets.
But here is the rough truth. They don’t disappear. They hide, grow and eventually explode, causing much more damage than we have just resisted them.
Avoidance can lead to distrust. It leaves your partner to interrogate what else you can hide or avoid.
Bite the bullet. Have those tough conversations. It can be difficult, it can be painful, but it is necessary for your relationship with trust. Because trust faces problems together not to fear them.
7) is not present
In this digital era, it is easy to be physically present, but mentally mile away. I know myself guilty, swinging my phone while my partner talks to me.
But when we are not fully present, we send a message to what our screens are more important than the person before us. This can delete confidence and make our partners feel invisible.
As the great philosopher Laos Izu said on time.
Put your phone, turn off your TV and give your partner your inseparable attention. It is one of the simplest ways to show them that they are important to you. Trust me, they will appreciate it more than you know.
8) given each other
Here is a bare truth. It is easy to share our partners over time. We adapt, we are complaining, and we forget to assess them.
But every time we forget to say that thank you for the little things, every time we assume that there will always be there without making efforts, we want to be there.
Giving someone can make them feel unnoticed and unavailable. And it can lead to a breakdown of trust.
Take a moment for a moment to show your gratitude for a moment. Say thanks. Show your appreciation. This may seem small, but it can make a world of confidence in your relationship.
Conclusion
In a relationship, building trust and maintenance is a journey, not a destination. This requires constant effort, patience and understanding.
Remember that it is often small things that are the biggest difference. So think of these habits, no matter how insignificant they may seem insignificant.
In my book, breaking the app. How to overcome code dependence in your relationship, I look deeper in these questions and give practical advice on overcoming them.
But remember that the first step is always aware. Now, when you are aware of these habits, you are already building a strong, more reliable relationship on your way. Good luck!