We all want to be seen as real and trustworthy.
But sometimes, without even realizing it, we have the opposite impression.
Not always the great, obvious things that people make people question our sincerity. It’s often small habits we don’t think twice.
Compulsive smile, a slightly delayed response or even too much explanation may bow to others to feel disabled.
The complex part. These habits are so small that we rarely mean them in us.
Others and over time, they may not be shut down when people perceive us.
If you have ever experienced that your words and intentions do not fully match how others see you, these eight small habits can be the reason.
1) “Trust me” or phrases “be”
You can think that telling you “trust me” makes you more convincing, but ironically, it can have the opposite effect.
When you constantly assure people that you are honest, it can be surprised. Why do you feel the need to say that?
I mean, that means you are not always truthful.
We use these words from the habit of habit, not a deception.
But it is possible to meet others, because it is very difficult to prove sincerity, not just be honest.
A better approach. Let your words and actions speak for themselves.
If you are real, people will take it on it without additional prompt.
2) nodding and too much agreement
I was thinking that being agreed to make me more enjoyable.
In conversations, I would be enthusiastic, throwing very “accurate”. And “I’m completely getting it” even when I was 100% on board.
I didn’t try to be fake. I just wanted things to be flat and avoid conflict.
Later I noticed that people didn’t open so much for me.
A close friend didn’t even tell me. “Sometimes I can’t say what you really think.”
It was a warning call. He constantly agreed that he was not supported. It made me be honest.
People appreciate honesty more than the blind agreement.
Now I mean more real to get involved, even if it means to raise other prospects, and surprisingly, my connections have grown only because of it.
3) smiling when you don’t mean that
Most people think that smiling makes them warm and affordable, and most of the time do it.
When a smile is forced or out of place, people immediately take it on it.
The human brain has intensified even the elegant expressions of the face, in fact, we can discover whether the smile is also false.
It means that if you smile, be polite, but you don’t really feel it, there is a good opportunity for the person you are talking to.
A smile like a non-compliant phrase when serving bad news or when you are clearly uninteresting, can you seem deplorable.
Relying on a reflective smile instead, focus on being in a conversation.
A real expression, whether a real smile or a more neutral look is always more valid.
4) Avoiding eye contact (or too large)
The eye contact is one of the strongest forms of trust and sincerity.
But there is a good line, very little, and it seems rough or uninteresting. A lot and you are faced as intense or even frightening.
The ideal amount of eye contact in conversation is 60-70% of the time.
Obviously a less important thing can force people to hide something while looking too much, can feel unnatural and forced.
If you fight with it, listen to a balanced approach and keep eye contact when listen, sometimes break it to avoid glance.
When your eye contact feels easily, so it does your authenticity.
5) Using excessively polished or written answers
I used to think that a brilliant sound made me meet as confident and professional.
I carefully expressed my answers, to avoid pauses and make sure that what I said is right.
But after a while, I noticed that people did not always respond to what I wanted.
The conversations felt a little … turned off as there was a barrier between me and the other.
Then he hit me. My words were very tried, too perfect and perfect, they don’t always feel real.
People are connected with authenticity, not improvement.
A natural pause, a little temptation or a moment to gather your thoughts you look human.
Now I let my words flow more naturally, even if it means it’s not always flawless.
And you know what? It caused a huge difference of how people respond to me.
6) Be extremely enthusiastic
Do you think that bringing high energy to each conversation will make you friendly and involved?
But sometimes a lot of excitement can have the opposite effect. It may seem sincere.
When every idea is “surprising”, every story is “unbelievable,” and every minor success is found with predominant excitement, people begin to think about what you actually say.
It can feel less like real interest and more like an automatic reaction.
The real enthusiasm has high and low, match at the moment.
Instead of responding to everyone in the same way, try to collect it and allow your emotions to reflect how you actually feel.
That way, when you express the excitement, people know that it is real.
7) Laugh at things that are not funny
Laughter is a great way to connect with people, but when it is forced or incorrectly deployed, it may seem honest.
I caught me doing it with a joke I didn’t find it really fun or funny just to fill in an awkward silence.
I didn’t try to be fake; I just wanted to keep the conversation comfortable.
Surprisingly, it can have an opposite effect.
People can feel when the laughter is not real, and instead feels natural, it can feel things.
You don’t have to laugh just from being polite.
If something is not funny to you, a warm smile or simple recognition acts as good and feels much more valid.
8) Not allowing your true personality
At the heart of the sincerity is a simple thing. Being yourself.
When you keep your opinion, adjust your personality to match the situation, or it is very difficult to be what people think that people can feel it.
Even if you mean well, it creates a switch like something isn’t going to fully.
The validity is not about being perfect. It’s about being real.
The more you allow people to see the real, your sweat, your honest thoughts, your natural reactions. More they will trust what you are saying.
Why is sincerity always stand out
People are surprisingly good at collecting what is real and what is.
Even when we don’t realize that, we are constantly reading a tonality, body language and subtle signs to determine that someone is real.
That’s why the sincerity is not something you can force it, it must naturally come.
It’s not perfect about how you talk or act. The word is about what you say what you actually feel.
When you throw away the distance that creates the distance and focus on full-time and honest, people notice and, most importantly, they trust you.