If Aunt Susan continues to be the choice of your career or cousin Joe can never bring up that shameful case ten years ago, you know that they are toxic.
It’s Family Dynamics 101, but it’s not always as black and white as it is.
The tree of the human family can be as complicated and complex as human mind, sometimes it is difficult to understand what is really your back.
The psychologist has recently spoken about it as simple as possible. There are seven types of family members who do not deserve to be in touch (and I have to say that this list can surprise you.
1) Eternal critic
Criticizing your life is like living with a storm cloud.
Their presence always mourning, ready to rain on your parade at any time.
Whether it’s about your career, your life or even your love life, they always have a disappointing remark ready to shoot.
What’s worse? This critic could be a family member.
But here’s the deal. Living under stable criticism is exhaustive and harms your self-esteem.
It loots you legally to yourself by hindering your personal growth.
It’s not about abusing, it’s about maintaining your mental health.
Sometimes it means to leave permission to eternal critics in our family tree.
2) Fair weather friend
We all know someone who is a fair weather friend, isn’t it?
They are all sunshine and smile when life is good, but the minute storm clouds go in, they were not found anywhere.
With my own experience, I had aunt who was a righteous weather friend’s epithmith. He appeared to all the gatherings of the family, always ready with a smile and laughter.
But when I passed a rough period. Loss of work followed by painful breakdown. He disappeared.
No calls, no texts, no support. Absolutely nothing.
And I realized that. His friendship was conditional.
It was only valuable for him when I was in a high mood and I could offer something instead of him.
True relationship, no matter how family or otherwise need support and mutual understanding before the hard times.
3) emotional vampire
Have you ever found a completely dried family after spending time with a certain member?
You can deal with an emotional vampire. They are those who suck the energy from the room, leaving you exhausted and degraded.
These individuals have a knife to turn each conversation into drama, ignoring other people’s feelings and needs.
It’s like they feed your emotional energy to lit their own insecurities and the behavior of attention.
Note: Psychologists have found that the long-term effects of emotional vampires can lead to stress, anxiety and even depression.
If you have a family member who leaves you more dried than after one heavy use of a smartphone, it may be time between you.
4) Celebrated-boiled
Ah, guilty-boiled. Hidden master manipulator behind the family title.
This is a family member who feels guilty of not to accept their expectations or not to defend your own well-being.
They can use phrases such as “after I have done for you” or “you are selfish” to manipulate your emotions and make you make things.
Fault is a powerful tool, but it is not a healthy foundation for any relationship.
It is very important to remember that you are not responsible for the happiness of other people, and your decisions must be guided by the best for you, not what is the best of you.
You deserve relations that are built of respect and understanding, not manipulation and guilt.
5) The permanent opponent
I don’t know about you, but I have had a fair share of meetings with a permanent opponent.
This is a member of the family who makes every achievement, every life event contest.
When I bought my first car, my cousin immediately went out and got a newer, flashier model.
When I declared my job promotion, my brother quickly reminded me of his high salary.
The thing is, life is not a race, and the constant need to go out to each other can be exhaustive.
In addition, it can make acidicizing what support and loving relationships.
You must specify your achievements without being overcharged them with unnecessary competition.
6) Supercomputer
This may seem strange, but the supercomputer can also be a member of the problematic family to keep your life.
This is a relative who has no boundaries by sharing every soulmate of life with you, regardless of the context or your comfort.
Although it is very good to have open lines of communication inside the family, there is such a thing as much information.
When the boundaries are followed consistently, it may cause excess tension on relationships.
The psychologist I spoke to explain that maintaining healthy relations requires a balance of personal boundaries and respect.
If you have a predominant family member who constantly crosses the line, it may be worth considering if these interactions are really beneficial for you.
7) Eternal victim
Finally, but no less important, we have an eternal victim. This is a family member who never takes responsibility for their actions or mistakes.
Instead, they constantly depict as victims, blaming others for their misfortunes.
This can be especially dry, as it often leads to inefficient conversations and lack of relationships or development.
Remember that it is important to surround you with individuals who inspire you to grow and become a better option for yourself.
If a family member constantly plays the affected card, our psychologist offers time to reconsider how much you keep in touch with this person.
After all, personal growth requires responsibility not to hit it.
Final Thoughts:
When you reach the end of this piece, it is important to remember that every family has its own complications.
And just like the park, sometimes we need to clean up the unhealthy parts to allow new growth and flourishing.
Remember that removing yourself from certain family members does not mean that you love them less.
It just means you choose to love more and respect yourself.
According to the famous psychologist Carl Roger. “The fascinating paradox is when I accept myself as I am, I can change.”
This also applies to accept our family dynamics, as they are, and then making the necessary changes for our own well-being.
Think about this thought and remember that it is good to make a choice that prioritizes your mental health.
After all, you can’t pour over the blank cup.