You don’t have to be a therapist or be a reader of thought so that people understand more deeply. Sometimes it’s as simple as the words you choose.
We say a lot of emotional moments, especially in emotional moments, how well we understand ourselves and the people around us.
And while emotional intelligence may seem like an abstract concept, it is often seen in everyday conversations without we realize it.
In fact, if you regularly use certain phrases, you are more emotionally smart than you think.
Here are some keys that reveal how you soften their emotions, and your others.
1) “I understand how you feel.”
Emotions can be confused, unpredictable and sometimes overwhelming. But one of the most powerful works you can do for someone is realizing what they feel.
When you say: “I understand how you feel,” you just don’t cause sympathy. Do you show that you recognize their emotions?
People with strong emotional intelligence are not in a hurry to fix or remove emotions. Instead, they authenticate. And that simple act can make all the differences on how others are heard and supported.
2) “It should be really difficult.”
I will never forget a time when I was a boyfriend about a stressful situation.
I was overloaded, disappointed and just needed all that. Instead of trying to give me advice or trying to solve the problem, they just said: “It simply came to our notice then.”
And honestly. Which sentence made me feel much better? It showed that they just did not listen to my words. They actually listened and knew my struggle.
People with high emotional intelligence know that sometimes the best thing you can do is to know someone’s difficulty without jumping solutions immediately. A little bit of authentication goes a long way.
3) “I appreciate you.”
A devalued feeling is one of the strongest motives for human behavior. Studies have shown that recognition and appreciation are the same brain reward centers, such as financial stimulus.
That’s why emotionally intelligent people are used to thank you not only for big gestures, but also for small, everyday things.
“I appreciate you telling you that someone will know that their efforts, time, or even their presence are not unnoticed. And when people feel and appreciate are more likely to appear as their best items.
4) “I was wrong about that.”
Accepting that mistakes are not easy. It can feel uncomfortable, even a little shame. But emotionally intelligent people understand that belonging to their mistakes creates trust and respect.
“I was wrong about it,” says humility and willingness to learn. It moves from the center of the ego and growth, making conversations more open and honest.
And the truth is that people are much more likely to respect someone who can confess when they all claim that they are right.
5) “Tell me more.”
I learned that the best conversations don’t get the perfect answer. They come from really curious.
When I say. “Tell me more,” I don’t only keep the conversation. “
I show that what is important to me. And more often than no, they open in ways that would not have otherwise.
Emotional intelligent people know that listening is only waiting for your turn to speak. It’s about creating space for others to understand and appreciate.
6) “I needed to think about this for a while.”
People often suggest that emotional intelligence means that it is always right to say at this time.
In fact, the most emotional intelligent people are not in a hurry at all.
Saying: “I needed to think about this for a while,” says self-consciousness. It means you are aware of when the problem needs a deeper reflection instead of a quick response.
Whether it is a hard decision, a conflict or emotional conversation, taking a place to yourself, can lead to much better results than you will regret later.
7) “How can I support you?”
It’s easy to assume that we know what someone needs when they fight. But the truth is that all challenges are otherwise, and what helps one person not help someone.
That’s why emotional intelligent people ask. “How can I support you?” instead of guessing. It moves the attention to the general advice, in fact, to meet the other person.
Sometimes they need a solution, sometimes you just need to ventilate, but in any way, asking them to have everything for them.
8) “I’m listening.”
More than the perfect words or best advice, what people really want to be heard.
Saying: “I am listening to” and in fact, it is one of the simplest but most powerful ways to show emotional intelligence.
It says that at that moment they have all your attention, their thoughts, feelings and experience. And sometimes it’s really necessary.
Words you are using materials
Emotional intelligence is not just about understanding emotions, it’s about how you express that understanding. And the words you choose, even in the smallest moments, can shape the way people around you.
Because at the end of the day people remember how you made them feel more than what you said.
A simple expression of authentication, appreciation or curiosity can turn the usual conversation into something meaningful.
So if you are already using these phrases often, you can be more emotionally smart than you realize.
And if not, there is always a place to grow because our communication is not just a reflection, but we become.