When the speaker goes confidently to the room, you can feel it. When they talk, people listen. It is only about what they say. Here’s how they say it.
But here’s what. Confident and self-confident speakers are not born. They have developed habits that help them communicate with clarity, ease and presence.
Some of these habits may seem small but together they make a huge difference. And the good news. They are all you can learn.
So what does these speakers separate? Let’s dive into eight habits that almost all are common.
1) They accept the pause
Silence may feel uncomfortable. When most people talk, they are in a hurry to fill every gap, fearing that the pause may seem unrecognized or unprepared.
But confident speakers know better. They understand that the well-placed pause increases their words, gives their audience time to the process and shows that they control the conversation.
Instead of using additional words, they allowed the silence to work in their favor. It makes them more intentionally, more thought out, and eventually be more self-confident.
So next time you talk, don’t be afraid to slow down and hug away. It can just make your message stronger.
2) they speak with intent
I previously thought that liar think means that it was a lot of words talking in words in words, so there was never an awkward moment. But the more I talked, the more I realized that trust was more about saying. It’s about saying what is really.
I remember a single meeting where I was constantly trying to explain my point of view from every possible point of view. When I finished, I didn’t even confident what my main message was.
But then, a colleague jumped a little and straight something, and instantly attracted everyone’s attention. That’s when you hit me, people listen when you talk with intention.
Now, before saying anything important, I’m taking a second. “What do I really try to communicate?” Keeping things clear and targeted have made all the differences on how people respond to me.
Confident speakers simply don’t speak for speaking. They count their words.
3) They control their tone
Your words, but how do you say they can make all the differences? Studies have shown that people are more likely to judge the speaker’s trust and authority from their own tone than the real content they say.
Confident speakers know that, that’s why they avoid talking very quickly, letting them go out their vocal trace, or using a higher train that makes statements.
Instead, they make their tone stable, simple and intentionally to trust others easily.
The right holiday not only makes you feel more confident. It also makes people more likely to believe in your message.
4) They are an eye on the eye
Nothing weakens the message faster than the speaker who avoids eye contact. Looking down, sliding around the room or looking at that many notes can be made even a better spoken person.
Confident speakers, on the other hand, use the eye contact to contact their audience. They just don’t scan the room aimlessly. They lock their eyes with individuals, their words are more personal and involved.
The eye contact shows that you are present that you believe what you say and that you are comfortable with you. And when people can’t hear, but when people can’t hear.
5) They do not rush their words
I was talking very quickly, especially when I was nervous. I thought that if all my words received fast, I would be more knowledgeable or I am dealing with people. But in fact, the rush only caused distrust for me.
Confident speakers do the opposite. They demand their time knowing that their words are greater than talking at a steady pace. They leave a place for emphasis, let the main points be immersed, and they will never be recalled so that they are in a hurry to end.
Now that I talk, I remind me. Slow down. It not only makes me feel more control but also makes others heard more probable.
6) They are not afraid to accept when they don’t know something
Many people think that trust means all the answers. But the most confident speakers are not those who pretend to be everything, those who say comfortable. “I don’t know.”
Trying to distract your way through a conversation or force something to make you look less trustworthy. But when you admit what you don’t know really makes you meet as more reliable and authentic.
Confident speakers understand that their value does not receive the answer to everything. It stems honest, thinking and ready to learn.
7) They use stories to make a point
The facts and data are useful, but they are not always memorable.
What people really connect are stories. That is why confident speakers simply do not present information. They are the title of life with real examples, experiences and stories that perform their message.
The well-said story attracts attention, makes it difficult ideas to understand and help people tell what is said. It also makes the speaker more attractive and human, which connects trust and contact with their audience.
If you want people to really remember what you say, don’t just give them information, give them a story.
8) They believe what they say
No techniques, tricks or habit can replace the real faith of your own words. Confident speakers are simply convinced that they are confident. They are confident of themselves. They speak convinced because they really stand behind their message.
People can feel when the speaker is uncertain or simply passes through motions. But when you fully believe what you say, the trust naturally comes in your voice, body language and presence.
The most powerful way to speak with confidence means each word.
Trust is something you create
I hope that if you read this distance, you will notice that confident speakers are not born that way, they build their trust through habits and practices.
Because real trust is not about being the highest man in the room, or never feel nervous. It comes from the preparation, self-employment and faith in what you say.
And the best part. Anyone can develop it. Trust is not something you either have, or you don’t have it is something you create, one habit at a time.