I have seen it many times that women are stuck in a relationship where they promote more trust than a real partner. It’s disappointing, exhausting and worse, it keeps you to find someone who actually appreciates you.
Some men don’t want love; They want authentication. They surround you, not because they care about you but because you make them feel good for them. And the worst part. They will never accept it.
But psychology makes it clear. There are certain signs that reveal when a man only uses you to feed his ego. If you recognize this behavior may be time to walk.
1) he only reaches when he needs a ego stimulus
Never notice how he disappears for days, perhaps even weeks, but at the moment he needs some authentication, he suddenly blows your phone.
This is not the love or even real interest. It is a classic sign of an ego-conditioned connection. He does not reach, because he misses you. He reaches because he misses him to give you.
Psychologists call this intermittent reinforcement. It’s a manipulation tactic where someone clings you to pay enough attention to you but never enough to invest in you.
If a person only comes around when he needs to remind him how big he is, you are not his priority. You are just his safety network.
2) he’s shivers you with compliments but they feel empty
Do you think that we are constantly praising that he really cares, isn’t it? Not always.
A man who keeps you for his ego often overestimates compliments, but they don’t feel personal. He will say such things like, “You are amazing” or “Any guy would be lucky to you” but rarely marks anything special about you.
Why don’t compliments feel special? They are about holding you a hook, so you will continue to feed his ego.
The real admiration comes deeply. It’s about who you are, not only feels like him. If his words sound like something, he could tell anyone, it’s time to question his intentions.
3) he brings you closer but never completely delivered
He acts as he wants you in his life. He flirts, he does future plans, and maybe even call you “Favorite Man.” But when it comes to real. Suddenly he is full of excuses.
This is what psychologists call grain enough to pay enough attention to keep you but never enough to build something. It’s a classic step for someone who blooms your attention, but it’s not ready to give back anything.
I have seen this example so many times and sincere, I was falling for it too. That’s one of the reasons I wrote to break the app. How to overcome code dependence on your relationship. Help women stop this one-sided connections.
If he holds you in his orbit but does not fully demand you, that’s because he is confused. He knows what he does and he knows he is better.
4) he does everything about himself
Never notice how each conversation somewhat surrounds him. You share something important, and instead of listening, he believes that the center of attention will turn himself into himself.
At first it may seem harmless. Maybe even charming. But over time, you begin to realize that your thoughts, emotions and achievements are barely registered until they have served his ego.
Once Eleanor Roosevelt said: And that’s the truthful men who don’t think like this like this as you think about them.
I have been in this situation before, where I continued to give and give, hoping he would finally see me. But the hard truth. A man who only sees himself will never see you.
5) he is jealous but only when he threatens his ego
He doesn’t want to make, but the moment you’ll start to pay attention to someone else. Suddenly he is all.
This is not a love. It is possessed. He doesn’t want to lose the authentication you give him, so he walks hard to make you slip. But when he feels safe again, he returns to his usual behavior.
I remember that I have a boy like this in my early twenties. I started to pull the second, he would show with Grand Gestures and sweet words. But as soon as I return to his orbit, the efforts disappeared.
It took me a long time to understand that his jealousy is not about me. Needed eternity about his ego.
If a person only struggles you when he feels that he loses control, he does not support the relationship. He protects his pride.
6) he never asks meaningful about your life
Of course, he can throw “How was your day?” But does he actually listen? Does he remember the little details, follow the things that are important to you or ask more questions about your dreams and struggle?
The man who appreciates you will be fascinating towards you. A man who only appreciates what you do for his ego will keep the surface of the conversations. Because at the end of the day he is not really invested in knowing you.
How did Maya Angelu wisely? “When someone shows you who they are, first of all, believe them.” If he consistently shows you that your thoughts and feelings do not pull in his world, believe in him.
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7) Do you feel worse? How long are you staying about you
Being around her at first feeling you special. But over time. You feel dried, insecure and constantly interrogating your value.
It’s not love. It’s an emotional erosion.
A man who surrounds you for his ego will last more than he gives. He will build you enough to be attached to you, then not slowly not to make your trust in order not to be better.
I’ve been there. I have left very long, I did excuses and convinced myself that if I just prove my value, he finally treat me right. But here is the truth. If the relationship feels more strong, it is not a relationship. It’s a trap.
And the only way to win. Walk away.
Losing walking does not lose. It returns itself
Leaving a man who only holds you for feeding his ego is not easy. It’s not just about him. It’s about not to listen to you that he settled for you less than you deserve.
The truth is when someone likes you option, it slowly decomposes the feeling of value. You begin to interrogate yourself, wondering if you ask a lot, or if maybe, you may just be able to love her enough to love her.
But you can’t fix someone who blooms more than they will ever give.
The real challenge does not find someone who will finally see your value. It yourself knows your value. Should you have to confirm it without anyone?
Justin Brown studies beautifully in her video, not being alone, not a single destiny, but a meaningful stage of self-withdrawal and discovery. If you have ever experienced, put pressure to be alone to be alone, this is required.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ajtutpk4iac
It is not selfish to choose yourself. It is the first step in the way of life and love to shape. You actually deserve.