Some women walk through life that no one can see.
They smile, they push forward, they regulate their way. To the outside world, they seem to be strong-steadfast. But deep down, something is not right.
They would not dare to accept it, though not themselves, and, of course, no one else. Because the force, as always believed, means launching single things. This means that never shows weakness.
But misfortune has a way to reveal itself in unexpected ways. No matter how much someone tries to suppress it, some habits begin to cause small signs that something is not so good because they want to believe.
Here are eight customs women show when they are deeply unhappy, but they are very strong to accept it according to psychology.
1) You are busy to avoid the front of your feelings
There is always something to do, somewhere, someone who needs you. And that’s exactly how you like.
Keeping employment means that there is no time to stop and think. From time to time to sit awkward emotions that crawl when everything is silent.
You tell yourself, it’s just ambition, responsibility or strong work ethic. But deep down, the constant movement is a way to avoid what you don’t want to accept. It feels something under all this.
The business becomes a shield, protecting yourself, to face what is actually going inside. But no matter how much you complete your schedule, these feelings simply disappear. They wait for moments when everything is slowing down.
2) You tell yourself that you are just tired
Consumption is easier to explain than misfortune.
You wake up dried, push the day and collapse in bed at night, saying you just need more sleep, vacation or all responsibilities.
I used to say that to myself. I told myself that if I could just pass the next project, the next event, the next obligation I would feel better. But no matter how much I relaxed, the weight was never really left.
Because it wasn’t just exhausted. It was deeper.
When you are not honest with yourself, what is wrong with really, everything starts to feel the energy leak? Even things that made you happy once, they begin to feel obligations.
And yet, instead of confirming it, you convince yourself that you just need to push.
3) You are laughing and smiling, but it doesn’t feel real
“Nothing pursues us about such things we don’t say.”
– Mitch Albom
You have mastered the art of looking good. You smile at the right moments, laugh when you’re supposed to keep the light of conversation. No one would ever guess that under all things, something inside is in the distance.
There have been times when I caught myself in the middle of the conversation, laughing with everyone, and I felt completely separate from that moment.
It was not that I was happiness. It was that I learned to do so well that I even started believing it for short periods.
But pretending feelings don’t leave. It just burying them deeper, until one day you realize that you don’t even know what real happiness is.
4) You explain yourself, even when you don’t have to
When someone is really sure how they feel, they declare their thoughts and move forward. But when there is a deeper uncertainty that hides under the surface, the words begin to be tiled.
Studies have found that people who feel emotionally unattractive or insecure are inclined to explain their own. Not because they need, but because they subconsciously try to convince themselves, not only others that make sense.
You catch yourself, justifying simple decisions explaining why you feel a certain way or give long-term answers to questions that don’t really require.
It’s not intentional, but it happens, because deep down, some of you are not completely convinced of the events you told.
5) You feel irritating by things that never bothered you
Small things start falling under your skin that I wouldn’t think twice before. Someone chews very loudly, the question feels like a universe, a simple request feels suddenly overwhelming.
However, it’s not about those things. The temptation does not come from them. It’s coming from you.
When emotions fall too long they just disappear. They find other ways on the surface, often small, misplaced in everyday moments.
You love the loved one, roll your eyes into an innocent interpretation or feeling unexplored tension inside you.
And then he comes sin. Because it’s deep down, you know that it’s not really them at all.
6) You avoid deep conversations about yourself
Talk about work. It’s easy. Speaking about the weekend plans. No problem. Talking about how you actually feel. That’s when things get worse.
You are drears away from yourself, keeping things on a surface level or distracting attention to others. If someone asks how you are quick, you give a response. “Busy but good.” and move forward before they can ask more deeply.
It’s not like you don’t want to open. That’s because the opening means you recognize emotions you are trying to push. And if you start, you are not sure how much it will come.
Instead, you keep everything in the lights, keep things moving and continue to convince yourself that as long as no one asks hard.
7) You fill your energy in booking other people’s problems
It’s easier to focus on someone else’s struggle than your own.
You are one person to seek counsel, he who always knows right to say the right thing, who will leave everything to help when someone needs you. And you don’t mind. It gives you a sense of goals to continue.
But sometimes, helping others becomes a deviation. Instead of sitting with your own emotions, you are throwing yourself to correct the relationship that will fix yours, solve problems that you are doing.
Being there for others is a beautiful thing. But when it becomes a way to resist your own feelings, it leaves a small place for someone who needs your attention.
8) You tell yourself that all is well
If you say enough time maybe it will feel right.
You remind all the good things in your life, all the reasons you need to be happy. You tell yourself that other people are worse that you just emphasize that this feeling will pass.
And maybe it will be. But deep down, there is a part of you that he knows really knows. That something is not right. It’s no matter how many times you claim you are good, the weights.
It is not the power to be all right. It’s about being independent, even when the truth is difficult to face.
Bottom line
The force does not mean ignoring your own misfortune.
It’s easy to convince yourself as long as you act as long as you are preserving responsibilities unless no one should be good.
But misfortune doesn’t just disappear because you refuse to accept it. It remains, forming your thoughts, your habits and the way through life.
Once Karl Jung said: You are not accidental patterns. They are signals. They point to something that needs attention, something that needs care.
Not noticing these habits is not a sign of failure. It is a sign of self-esteem. And the self-awareness is the first step in change.