If you ever make a mistake like a child you are not alone. Growing up with parents with lack of needle can be a hard series for HOE. A little bit like one language to learn from someone who only speaks in puzzles.
Of course, they say something, but they are deciphered that it may take some time. And it’s not always about what they say, but what they don’t do.
The troubled part is that these signs are not always obvious. In fact, they can be so subtle that it can dive deep into your own psychology, even to recognize them.
But Kicker, recognizing these signs can be a powerful tool for personal growth and authenticity. Let’s take this journey together and discover the 8 marks that brought you the parents who had very little sympathy for you.
1) You are too self-assured
Independence is a virtue, isn’t it? It is one of the qualities that many of us want to have. But there is a thin line between independence and sin between self-confidence.
Growing up with parents who had no compassion often mean that you need to navigate the unchanging waters of life from an early age. You had to defend yourself, act things and often swallow your emotions because they weren’t to understand or authenticate one.
This can make you very self-confident, always claiming to do everything to yourself because it’s what you always know. You can find hard to ask for help, even when you need it, because help in your experience was never easily accessible.
In fact, your emotions become a single island that only resides.
It’s not easy, but recognition is the first step towards growth and authenticity. After all, the understanding of our past is very important to form our future and the person we really want to be.
2) You fight with the expression of feelings
This is the longest time, I thought stocism was a force. I climbed my ability to keep my emotions hidden in order to act even when I felt low and no one would let anyone see me.
Returning now, I see where it came from. My parents bless them, they were not the most sympathetic people. The feelings were seen as weaknesses, and tears met with indifference. I quickly learned that it doesn’t make sense to express how I feel because it would change anything.
So I bottled everything inside and put a brave face, even when I was breaking inside.
But here is what I have learned. Pressure your emotions is not a force. It is a mechanism for overcoming. To understand a defense mechanism against pain.
It took me years for years to prevent this habit, and let us openly express my feelings. At first it was terrible but getting rid of the same time. It allowed me to connect with people to a deeper level and opened a whole new world for me.
3) You have high tolerance for poor treatment
Do you know that children who grow less compassionate parents often become adults who tolerate the bad attitude of others? It’s an unfortunate cycle.
Because they are accustomed to their feelings neglected, they can become blind for red flags that shows that they are unfair or unwavering. They can even normalize this behavior by thinking of how people communicate with each other.
It’s like having an unspeakable emotional compass that constructs you to unhealthy relationships and situations.
But here’s the good news, after recognizing this pattern, you can break it. You can learn to set borders, say, if necessary, demand respect from others.
4) You are nice people
Growing up with the parents who missed the Asapat often leads to constant urge to please others.
Why, since as a child, you may have believed that if you could just make your parents happy, they would finally understand and certify your emotions.
Unfortunately, this need can be satisfied with adults, leading everyone’s needs and desires to put your own. Can you go out for others all the time, even at your own account?
The irony is to try to make others happy, you may forget to take care of your own happiness.
Recognition of this feature can be a turning point in your journey to personal growth and authenticity. It is important to remember that it is good to prioritize your needs and emotions. After all, you can’t pour out of an empty cup.
5) You fight with self-esteem
This one hits me at home. For a long time I was fighting with self-esteem problems. I continually doubted my value and interrogation abilities. In my opinion, I was never enough for good enough, smart enough or just enough.
Later I realized that this was derived from my upbringing. My parents, although they did everything, did not understand how to validate and feed my feelings. I often felt invisible and unheard.
This lack of authentication can lead to a load that loses in adults. You may find that you are looking for an institution by others, the invalidity of your parents’ compassion.
But that’s what I learned. Your value is not determined by others’ opinions or authentications. It’s a typical thing, something you carry in you.
So, if you are fighting for self-esteem, as I did once, it’s good to seek help and work with you to build a healthier relationship with you.
6) Do you exceed while reading others?
Interestingly, less empathetic parents can sometimes read you only only reading others when reading others. Sounds strange, isn’t it? Let me explain.
When your emotional needs are not satisfied as a child, you tend to be aware of the emotions of others with the experience of understanding your own. You learn to take delicate tablets, mood shifts and non-verbal signs that others may miss.
In fact, you become an expert to understand others because you have to try it so hard to understand yourself.
But while this can be useful skill, it is important not to lose yourself in the process. Understanding others should not come at the cost of ignoring your own emotional needs.
After all, he is self-authority – the step of personal growth and authenticity.
7) You tend to feel guilty
If you often feel guilty for no obvious reasons, it can be a sign that you grew up by parents who had little sympathy. Unresolved feelings from childhood, especially when they engage our parents, have a rough way of appearing in our adult life.
You can feel guilty of yourself to express your needs, standing for yourself or even to allocate time for self-care. This is, as a child, expressing your needs could be encountered by indifference or even rejection.
This sin can be a heavy burden to move around, and it can hinder your personal growth and self-esteem.
Everyone has needs and emotions, and expressing them is not only normal, but necessary. Going to this sin is a process, but it is one that can lead to more valid and implementation.
8) You are stronger than you think
Growing up with parents with poor need can be incredibly tough, but it is important to remember that. It also makes you incredibly resistant.
You have been navigated by emotional landscapes that others may find a bewilderment. You have developed skills and overcoming mechanisms that helped you survive. You have learned to understand others in ways that many cannot.
And most importantly, you have managed to keep your abilities to be compassion, although not receiving yourself so much.
This flexibility is the testimony of your strength. It is evidence that you are able to grow, change and meaningful relationships.
So yes your past may have been hard. But it also shapes you in a resistant person who is able to understand and miss the deep level with others.
By accepting your way
If you did it so far, hope you started to see less empathetic parents, all the same, shape you in unique ways.
Because having less compassion in your upbringing does not define your value. Instead, it highlights your flexibility, your abilities to understand others and yes, your strength.
It is part of your journey that has played an important role in designing who you are today. It’s not a stain on your character, but a testimony, despite adversity, patient and grow your ability to grow.
In the wise words of the famous psychologist, Carl Rogers. “It’s a fascinating paradox when I accept myself as I am, I can change.”
You are not only the result of less compassionate parents. You are a flexible individual able to grow, change and feed compassion in you, which may be rejected.
And it makes you not only an incredibly strong man, but also extraordinary that be around.