When a guy says: “I’m not like other people,” you can guess he is a little different. When he says: “I hate drama,” you can assume that he is probably not a fan of the conflict.
But hey, it’s the main communication.
However, conversations are not always as simple.
Human psychology is a puzzle, full of delicate marks and hidden meanings. It requires more eye and careful hearing to decipher the nuances.
Some men, however, are the owners of this art.
They skillfully play in mind games using certain phrases so subtle, maybe miss them completely as long as you know what to look for.
Let’s dive right in and study these fascinating expressions and men who have such a subtle.
1) “I don’t want to hurry you, but …”
This phrase is classic.
It seems harmless, it’s true. After all, he looks careful not wanting to rush you. But that is a complex part.
In fact, this phrase is a rough way to put pressure on the innocence. It’s like: “Take your time, but remember, the clock is shaking.”
Using this phrase, he gently manipulates the conversation and moves the power to the government.
It’s a tactical step that is intended to feel you how you control when you don’t really.
It’s a thought game, simple and simple. And it shows that he knows how to play his cards correctly.
Beware of this one people.
2) “Interestingly, you’re the first man who ever told me”
This one takes me back.
I was once discussing this guy, let’s call him John. We were discussing the last book of the famous author.
I declared my opinion to whom John answered. “It’s interesting, you’re the first man who ever told me.”
At first I felt special. It seemed to have appreciated my unique view.
But since our conversations continued, I noticed that he often used this phrase. In time, I realized that it was his delicate means of guessing me second.
Noting that my views were unusual or unique, he gently assumed that they could be flawless or unaware.
It’s a smart mind game really. It makes you ask when they make him open minded and accepting.
Cunning step, John. A cunning step.
3) “Regardless of what you think I respect your opinion”
This phrase is MasterStroke in the world of mind games.
It seems that he is gentlemen, respecting your opinion, despite any disagreements. But deeper deeper and you will see manipulation.
The main word here is “independent”. It assumes that your opinion, although respected, is probably wrong, or at least different from its point of view.
Studies show that our brain is tense to detect threats and challenges. When someone gently fights our beliefs or opinions, it causes an unconscious defense response.
This expression applies to that psychological reaction. It puts you on defensive, without even realizing you, giving him the hand above.
It is a small expression with great consequences.
4) “I’m just saying it’s”
This phrase is Mind Games Playbook classic.
When a man says:
The ferment is that he is just honest even if it’s not what you want to hear. It is a way to divert any criticism or disagreement that can be directed on its way.
The truth is that no one has a monopoly in reality. We all have our own prospects and comments.
When you hear this phrase, know that in a conversation he is trying to overtake.
It’s not what we are talking about control.
5) “Maybe I’m wrong, but …”
This phrase is one I have met quite time.
It seems harmless to the surface, isn’t it? After all, he recognizes the opportunity that he could be wrong.
But here is the hunt. By starting his statement, he actually creates a scenario where it is more difficult for me to argue with his point of view.
Let me explain. If I don’t agree with him, I feel that I’m hitting someone who is already down because he just admitted that he could be wrong.
And if I agree with him, he says: “Look, I was right.”
Heads he wins, tails I lose. It’s a smart mind game that puts him in a favorable situation.
I have to admit it is a smart step. But now that I know the trick, I don’t fall anymore.
6) “I totally understand where you come from”
This phrase feels that there is a breath of fresh air in a heated discussion. It seems that he sympathizes with your point of view.
But here is the turn. This phrase can also be a cunning way to complete the discussion without actually agree with you.
Saying he understands where you come from, he gently transitions to the word from further debate or discussion on the topic.
It is an elegant way to avoid confrontation, while still maintains the upper hand in dialogue.
Understanding and the Agreement are two different things.
Don’t let this phrase fool you to think that he is on the same page as you are.
7) “It’s OK, do what you want”
This phrase is a mine in the field of mind games.
It seems to the surface that he is free to make you free to make your own decisions. But in reality it is a passive-aggressive tactic.
When he says: “It’s okay, do what you want,” most likely, it’s not good.
He just makes responsibility on you, so if anything goes wrong, he can sin in your decision.
It is a way to avoid taking responsibility, while still maintains the situation.
Next time you heard this phrase, walk carefully. It’s not so harmless as it seems.
8) “I’m just trying to help”
This phrase is the grandmaster of all the idle games.
When a man says: “I’m just trying to help,” she feels like she’s with you. But it is often a way to assure control of the control of a subtle, seemingly charitable manner.
He is actually positioned as an assistant, one with solutions, meaning that you need help.
It is a way to create a dynamic power where he received the upper hand, at the same time it seems that he is just kind and supportive.
Always remember this. The real help should not be announced or used to obtain the upper hand.
If you hear this phrase, it may be time to reassess the conversation and the game’s dynamics.
Understanding the game
If you have done it so far, hope you are deeper to understand the conversation of delicate art and thought games that can be in the game.
These phrases are not innate bad. These are tools and both of any tools can be used for good or patient. Everything is about their intention.
When used now, they become a means of gaining control and a means of approval of dominance.
But when it comes to sincerity and respect, they can help build understanding and promote deep ties.
Next time you find yourself in a conversation, pay attention to these phrases. Consider the context, intention and dynamics.
It’s not just about what is said, but why is it said?
After all, communication is a dance, giving and permanent intervention. And understanding steps can make all the differences.
Continue, keep dancing. But remember, we are not talking about winning or losing. It is about to understand music and move his rhythm together.