Trust is only about what we say. It also applies to how we wear. Without realizing it, our body’s language can send signals that destroy us a misconception.
According to communication, small, seemingly harmless gestures can be self-confidently discovering, even when we think we are faced.
These delicate habits can affect people’s conversations, work interviews or even in accidental interactions.
The good news. After recognizing these gestures, we can start making small adjustments that design more trust and self-confidence. Here are seven subtle signs that can give a lack of trust and what to do instead.
1) Avoiding eye contact
One of the easiest way to detect a lack of trust is through eye contact or its lack.
When someone avoids meeting you, look down very often, or constantly changes their eyes, it can make them uncertain or even unreliable.
Contact of strong eyes, on the other hand, the presence of signals, trust and involvement in conversation.
Of course, there is a balance. Looking too intensively, it can feel uncomfortable, but the maintenance of the natural eye contact shows that you are comfortable in your own skin and are sure what you say.
If you fight it, try to focus on the space between someone’s eyes. It keeps you without feeling overwhelming.
2) Move too much
I used to have a bad habit to constantly adjust my clock or touch my leg during conversations. I didn’t even realize that I was doing it until a partner pointed it. “You always look nervous,” they said.
The truth was that I was nervous. I just had extra energy that was needed. But for others, my awesome forced me to seem insecure.
Small, repeated movements, such as playing with your hair, pressing your fingers or moving your seat can affect anxiety or insecurity. Even if you feel confident, these gestures can send the wrong message.
When I was aware of it, I would make conscious efforts to continue my hands and focus on being present at the moment.
At first, it was not easy, but over time I noticed that people respond differently, more carefully. Sometimes trust goes down to the smallest details.
3) Sluching or poor posture
Your posture not only affects how others see you. It can actually affect how you feel about you. Studies have shown that standing or sitting can stimulate the feelings of trust and even reduce stress.
On the other hand, the reiteration may make you feel uncertain, tired or disabled.
People often don’t realize when they bend on shoulders or collapse in themselves, but the body language speaks louder than words.
Refront of a strong, vertical attitude of restraint shoulders a stronger impression in both personal and professional settings.
Next time you walk a room or sit for a conversation, take a second with your posture. Small adjustment can make a big difference of how you are perceived.
4) Talking a very gentle
The way you use your voice can completely change how others perceive you. When someone speaks very mild, it can be distrustful or hesitant, even if their words are confident.
A weak or extremely calm voice can also make it easier for people to talk to you or reject what you say.
Speaking clearly, stable volume gives instructions to attention and shows that you believe in your own words. It’s not about being the highest man in the room, but about designing your voice, which conveys trust.
If you are inclined to talk very quietly, practically reading or recording yourself aloud. Just aware of your volume can help you find the right balance between listening and sounding natural.
5) Excessive apology
Sorry to bother you. Sorry to talk. Sorry to take space.
Apologize when you did something wrong, it’s important, but constantly “sorry” saying for the things that do not require an apology, can you be sure.
It can also imperceptually lower your status in conversation, which makes it easier for others to make your ideas or opinions.
Instead, “Sorry”, try to replace it “thank you” if necessary.
Instead, “Sorry for being late” say “Thank you for waiting.” This small shift maintains the cooperation positive, while still accepts the situation without decreasing your presence.
6) Variation before talking
Let’s make it difficult to collect your thoughts normal, but if you often delay before talking, especially group settings.
“Ugh …” or “I don’t know I don’t know, but …” can weaken your message before you even reach the point.
Confident speakers trust their voice. They don’t guess the second before even starting. If you often find that you hesitate try to focus on certain to speak.
Even if you are not sure of something, expressing it as “here what I think” instead of “not sure, but …” makes a big difference.
The way to start the sentence defines the tone of how people will listen to you, so start strong.
7) Avoiding gestures while talking
When people are passionate and confident about what they say, their hands are naturally involved. They are a gesture to emphasize, to imagine the idea in the conversation to bring energy.
But when someone keeps your hands tight on their sides or tucked, it can make them seem closed or uncertain.
Using natural hand gestures when talking helps to strengthen your message and makes you get more busy. It also helps you feel more busy body language and mindset is closely linked.
If you fight it, try to hold a pen or lightly rest on the table to encourage movement. The goal is not gestures, but to allow them to flow naturally as part of your communication.
Lower line. Trust is a habit
Trust is not just one thing you have or don’t have it is something you are doing.
The way you are doing yourself, the way you speak to others, the way you engage with others. All of these small behaviors send signals about how you see yourself. And the more you strengthen certain habits, the more your identity forms.
Studies have shown that accepting confident language can feel more confident.
Social Psychologist Amy Cuddy’s “Power Poses” suggests that taking a tall and territory can lead to hormonal changes that increase the feelings of self-confidence.
In other words, trust is not only in your mind. It’s in your movements. Being aware of these fine gestures and making small adjustments, you just change how others perceive you, you change how you perceive yourself.