I believed that in life in my friend, no matter what was to do. After all, friendship is valuable and walking away from people can feel uncomfortable.
But that’s what I learned. Not everyone is not intended to stay.
Some companies raise you, challenge you to grow and bring out the best in you. Others are leaking your energy, hold you back or stuck you with old patterns that no longer serve you.
If you want to develop in your best version, you need to look a hard look at your company. Because the truth is that a certain friendship can stop you from reaching out to your full potential.
So let’s talk about it. The seven kinds of friends you have to throw if you really want to grow and bloom.
1) the friend who always brings negativity
You know one? No matter what happens, they always find something to complain.
Each conversation turns into a run. Every solution you offer is performed with another problem. And in some way, after spending time with them you feel more raised.
Negativity is contagious. If you are constantly surrounded by someone who only focuses on what is wrong is hard to see what is right. In time, their thinking can weigh you and you move forward.
The real friend protects you, challenges you and encourages the growth. None of who holds you in frustration and pessimism cycle.
It is good that people will be in difficult times, but if someone thrives on negativity and refuses to change, it can take time.
2) the friend who only lasts never gives
I had a friend who would constantly reach out when they needed some tips, favorable, emotional support, but when I needed me. Silence.
At first, I told myself that they were just busy. But over time, I started noticing an example. Each interaction revolved to their problems, their needs, life. My feelings and struggle were barely recognized.
Friendship must be a two-way street. Of course, there will be times when one person needs more support than the other, but if you always feel that you are giving and never getting a friendly deal.
Leaving one-sided friendship is not selfish. It is necessary. Surround yourself with people who appreciate you as much as you appreciate them.
3) a friend that secretly annoys your success
Not all companies end up with a sharp result. Some are just quiet decaying under the weight of unspoken jealousy.
Maybe you noticed that? Failure is compliments when you share the good news, the way it is silent when it comes to you. It’s as if your growth makes them uncomfortable.
I once had a friend I thought he would celebrate victories. Instead, they would find it every time they could find it to overthrow or draw attention to it.
It took me some time to accept it, but the truth was clear. They didn’t really want to see me flourish.
Real friends don’t compete with you. They rejoice for you. If someone in your life cannot be truly happy for your success, ask yourself why you still take room for them.
4) The friend who connects you to your past
Growth means developing, but some friends only see you as before.
They remind you of your past mistakes, kidding about the things you’re trying to pass and face your changes. Maybe it’s because they are suitable for your old version, one that fits their world.
Once I had a friend who will constantly bring my worst decisions, as if I didn’t work hard. Every time we hanged, I felt that I was jumping backwards instead of moving forward.
If someone in your life refuses to recognize your progress and continues to pull you back in the old habits or thoughts, it’s time to review that friendship. Right people will support your evolution, you are not hostage to your past.
5) a friend who thrives on drama
Some people are not happy until there is chaos.
They are gossiping with ruthless, mixing collisions, and somehow always seems to be in the center of a drama. The worst part. Studies have shown that simply being in a negative condition and the conflict can increase the level of stress and damage your overall well-being.
I have had a friend before, every conversation was about someone else’s mistakes, the problems of others, the fall of another.
And if there were no drama. They would create it. It took me too long to realize that if someone constantly talks to others behind their backs, they probably do the same for you.
You don’t need that energy in your life. Growth requires focus, peace and emotional maturities, drama-filled friendship will never be provided.
6) The friend who is only suitable for you when it is convenient
Everyone goes hard times. That’s when real friendship is tested.
Some friends have good moments. When everything is easy, fun and light. But when you fight? They disappear. Suddenly they are “too busy” or “very much passing”, but they expect you to always appear for them.
I feel that, life happens, and no one can be available 24/7. But if a friend is constantly disappearing when they don’t need them most, it is not a real friendship. You deserve people who stand by your side both at the top of the highest and low levels, not only when it is convenient for them.
The company is not about perfection. It’s about the presence. The right people will not run when things will be hard, they will stay, listen and remind you that you are not alone.
7) The friend who does not respect your limits
Boundaries are not walls. They are guidelines on how you are treated.
A friend that constantly exceeds, ignores your feelings or makes you feel guilty to not tell you. And respect is the basis of any healthy relationships.
Once I had a friend who would accompany me to situations I was not comfortable with I ignore the need of the universe and make me feel it’s hard to have it.
It took me for a long time to realize that if someone really appreciates you, they won’t put you, your borders are valid.
You don’t have to fight to get to be heard in friendship. The right people will respect your limits without feeling bad you.
Bottom line
Not to allow a particular friendship is not easy. But the growth requires the right people to make a place, those who increase, support and challenge you to help you bloom.
It is not about to keep the word rudely or cut off people without thought. It’s about to recognize the word when the connection causes more harm than good and courage to choose better for yourself.
Psychologists have long studied the influence of relations on personal growth, and one thing is clear. The people you encircle your thinking, energy and potential yourself.
If friendship keeps you stagnant, it’s worth asking if it really belongs to your future.
You owe yourself to build a life that is filled with connections, encourages and respects you. The right people. Those who truly see and appreciate you will never stand on your way to your growth.