When a guy lies to your face, you know he’s a cheater. When he breaks a promise, you know he’s unreliable.
This is communication 101.
But let’s face it, figuring out a person’s true character can be a tough nut to crack, especially when it comes to men with little integrity who often don’t even realize their own behavior.
Now, I’ve noticed that these men typically exhibit 8 specific behaviors, so let’s break it down together, shall we?
1) They are all talk and no action
Promises, promises. Easy to make, right?
For men with little integrity, they are a dime a dozen.These guys are experts at making big promises, but not so much when it comes to delivering.
They may promise you the moon and the stars, but they rarely deliver. Whether it’s a commitment to change a bad habit or just a simple problem they said they would take care of, the result is often the same: disappointment.
It’s not always because they’re trying to deceive you, sometimes they don’t even realize they’re doing it, but their pattern of empty promises is evidence of their lack of integrity.
It’s a classic case of actions speaking louder than words. The silence is deafening.
2) They shift the blame
I will never forget my old friend, let’s call him Mike.
Mike had a knack for avoiding responsibility. If something went wrong, it was never his fault. He had an excuse for every occasion and was a master at passing the buck.
Once we were working on a project together, we split the work evenly, but when the deadline approached, Mike still hadn’t finished his part. Instead of admitting that he dropped the ball, he blamed it on me.
According to him, I did not inform about the deadline clearly enough. But that was far from reality. we agreed on a schedule together.
This type of blame shifting is characteristic of men with little integrity. They do not take responsibility for their actions or admit their mistakes. Instead, they find ways to point the finger at others.
And as with Mike, it’s behavior that can seriously damage relationships and trust over time.
3) They distort the truth
Now there is an interesting thing about human memory. it’s not as reliable as we’d like to think.In fact, studies show that whenever we remember an event, we’re not remembering the actual event, but the last time we remembered it.
For men of little integrity, this “trait” of our memory can become a convenient tool for manipulation. They can subtly change facts or events to their advantage, distorting the truth so much that it becomes unrecognizable.
They don’t lie outright, that would be too obvious. Instead, they bend the truth to fit their narrative. And the worst part? They often do this without even realizing it.
4) They are inconsistent
One day they are your best friend, the next they are as cold as ice.
Sound familiar?
Men with little integrity often exhibit such erratic behavior. Their attitudes, beliefs, and even their promises can change like the wind.
This inconsistency can make you feel insecure and confused. You never know where you stand with them because their position can change at a moment’s notice.
Honesty is about consistency. to be the same person no matter who’s watching or what situation you’re in. But to these guys, that concept is as foreign as it gets.
5) They lack empathy
In my experience, one of the most telling signs of a man with little integrity is a lack of empathy.
I have seen it in action. they struggle to put themselves in others’ shoes, to understand or even accept their feelings and perspectives.They seem emotionally deaf.
I remember a guy I worked with who was like this.
When a colleague was having a hard time, he seemed completely oblivious to his distress, while the rest of us rallied around him, carrying on as if nothing was wrong.
This inability to empathize is more than just insensitivity. It is a fundamental lack of respect for the feelings and experiences of others, and it is a clear sign of little integrity.
6) They are often charming
Here’s a curve ball for you. men with little integrity can often be incredibly charming. They know how to make you feel special, they are charismatic and have a knack for saying all the right things at the right time.
But don’t let that fool you, this charm is often a smokescreen, a way to distract you from their less attractive traits and behaviors.
They use their charisma to attract people, gain trust and influence. But beneath that attractive exterior lies their lack of integrity.
Charm can be deceiving. It’s what’s underneath that really matters.
7) They are self-centered
Ever feel like you’re just an extra in someone else’s movie?
This is often the case when dealing with men who have little integrity.They tend to be self-centered, viewing everything through the lens of their own needs and desires.
Whether it’s a conversation that always goes back to them or disregarding your feelings and opinions, their self-centeredness is a constant presence.
A lack of consideration for others not only reveals their lack of integrity, but also makes meaningful, mutual relationships a real challenge.After all, it takes two to tango, right?
8) They don’t learn from their mistakes
Here’s the real kicker. men with little integrity rarely learn from their mistakes.
Whether it’s a failed relationship, a lost job, or a ruined friendship, they don’t see these experiences as opportunities for growth. Instead, they keep repeating the same patterns, making the same mistakes over and over again.
This inability to learn and grow is perhaps the most obvious sign of their lack of integrity.
We all make mistakes. But what we do with those mistakes determines our character.
Wrapping it all up
If you’ve made it this far, you’ve probably realized that men with little integrity can be difficult to deal with.
But understanding these behaviors can help us understand their actions and navigate our relationships with them more effectively.
Integrity isn’t just honesty. It’s about consistency, reliability, compassion, and a willingness to grow and learn from our mistakes. It’s about treating others with respect and dignity.
When someone lacks these qualities, it’s not just a sign of low integrity, it’s a sign that they’re missing some essential component of what it means to be a decent person.
Think about these behaviors. Recognize them in others. And most importantly, try not to display them yourself. After all, as they say, the best way to inspire honesty is to show it.