My favorite words have always been. “Honesty is the best policy.”
This principle led me through many aspects of life and downs, offering a compass in moments of moral ambiguity. Indeed, transparency can promote trust and strengthen relationships – personal or professional.
But is there so much, the more honesty?
According to psychology, the answer can surprise you.
Here is the gist.
Although the openness and honesty are generally considered positive properties, there are cases when it can be healthier and more useful for us. We are talking about a weighty balance, authenticity and discretion.
So if you have ever been thinking, “I have to share.” or “it was very personal.” Then stick around.
According to psychology, we are going to study in seven items.
Remember, we are not talking about the development of secrets. It’s about self-employment and personal growth promotion. Let’s study this together, we must.
1) Your personal goals
We all have dreams and ambitions that our souls make fire. Goals we disguise to reach. It is only natural to only want to share these aspirations with people around us, isn’t it?
Well, not so fast.
It is interesting that psychology suggests that broadcasting our goals can not be the best idea. Sounds like a repulsive, it’s not.
That’s why.
When we openly share our goals, our brain is in a hurry. Feeling-a-good hormone giving us a sense of satisfaction. This premature feeling of implementation can take away our motives to work and make our dreams come true.
In other words, keeping your goals yourself can actually increase the opportunities to achieve them. In addition, it allows you to move forward at your pace, refraining from external external pressures or judgment.
It’s about being confidential. It’s about being strategic. So next time you are tempted to announce your big plans, take a break and consider the psychological effects.
2) The indignation of your past
We’ve all been there. Old grief or past resentment that clings to us like a shadow. We can think that the ventilation about it will provide some help, a few closures.
I will leave you a little secret from my own life.
A few years back, I kept grief against the former partner. I thought my complaints would weaken the bite. But after recovering the story, it was only served to restart anger and disappointment. It felt an old wound collection by preventing it from treatment.
It turns out that psychology supports this.
Restoring old indignation can be stuck in a negative knot, which prevents us from moving forward. Instead of offering to the milk, it often enhances the negative emotions associated with the incident.
So consider your past resentments to yourself. Let them stay where they belong to, in the past. It’s not about suppressing your feelings, but about nourishing your emotional well-being and promoting personal growth.
We cannot change what happened, but we can control how we respond and move forward. And sometimes it means to allow it.
3) The actions of your kindness
Have you ever found others telling others about the good deeds you do? You may have helped the elderly neighbor with foods or take your morning run on the trash. It feels good to share these moments, isn’t it?
I hate to be someone who has to blow up your bubble, but here is a title from psychology.
The publication of our goodness actions can dilute their value.
When we share our good deeds, it can be involuntarily focus on the operation on your own. It can even tell others our motives. Was it really about helping or looking for better?
The real magic of kindness is in its anonymity, in those quiet satisfaction we get something good without expecting anything.
So consider your goodness activities for yourself. Not because they don’t deserve to share, but because their real value lies in a simple operation, not to tell.
After all, real kindness is not looking for applause. It’s just.
4) Your financial status
Str. It is a topic that can make even the most important individuals uncomfortable. Whether you ferment in the dough or barely scratch, discussing your financial status, can lead to inconvenient dynamics.
But why is that?
According to psychology, money is often associated with our sense of self-esteem and social status. The exchange of financial details can create unnecessary comparison, envy, or even frustration.
Think about it.
Your friend really needs to know how much you paid for that new car. Your supporter needs to know your check size. More often than no, the answer is highly “no”.
By keeping your financial status yourself, you not only keep your own privacy, but also stimulates healthy, less complex relationships.
5) Your family drama
Family. We love them, but let’s be honest, they can do us from time to time. And when the family drama accepts, share the valve and share the details with friends or colleagues.
But here is the cream.
The exchange of the family faces others, in fact, the situation can escalate, not to alleviate. It opens your personal life for public exam and judgment, creating more stress, not to release it.
Instead of mitigating the tension, bringing third parties can further complicate things and lead to more misunderstandings.
So keep a family drama inside the family where it can be solved with love and understanding. It’s not about hiding the truth. It’s about working to honor and resolve your family’s privacy.
6) Your personal struggle
We all have our battles. Some days are more difficult than others, and at these times it may feel that the world is hiding around us.
At these moments, we can feel our struggle to share our surroundings with everyone, hoping that the sympathetic ear or shoulder will rest.
But here is the hunt.
Although it is absolutely good to seek support, continuously sharing our personal struggle, can sometimes remove people. Not everyone is equipped to regulate the weight of our problems, and that’s fine. We all have our own battles to fight.
Instead, consider whether to leaning to trusted friends or family members who understand your way. And remember, it’s always good to seek professional help if your struggle is overwhelming.
Being selectively, with whom you combat your struggle, you not only protect your own mental health, but also keeping the well-being of you.
Remember, it’s not about bottling of your feelings. It’s about finding healthy and constructive stores for them. Everyone’s journey is different and it’s good.
7) Your Deep Secrets
Everyone has secrets. They are our parts that we keep away from the world, the fragments of our identity, which are unique to us.
The exchange of your deep secrets is not always advantageous. They can become a source of gossip or worse, used against you.
According to psychology, the preservation of certain things does not mean that you are dishonest or deceptive. It just means you understand the value of the boundaries and respects your inner holiness.
So keep your secrets. Not from fear or shame but respectful of you and your personal journey.
Remember that some things are better held for yourself. And it’s just not good, it’s healthy.
Reflecting and moving forward
If you have recognized yourself in any of these seven points, don’t be afraid. It is not the word to label or judge, but to develop a personal growth.
Remember, we all have trends that can not be good for us. The first step in transformation is to know them.
Start considering your interactions and conversations. Pay attention when you are on the verge of revealing one of these seven things. Question or will it really serve you or the other person?
Consider this. Necessary. Is it kind whether it is honored by my own limits?
It’s a process and it will not happen overnight. But by each small decision to protect your peace and personal space, you are engaged in self-service and self-respect.
When you walk this way, remember to enjoy yourself. Growth is a journey, not a destination. You learn, you develop, and it’s something to be proud.
So take a moment, refer to these ideas and pass them in your daily life. As you do, you will find stronger, more authentic relationships based on mutual respect and mutual understanding.
You can just discover your more confident and authorized version, someone who can navigate human interaction complications by grace, authenticity and self-confidence.
And remember, it’s good to keep yourself some things. It’s not secret. It’s just wise.