I previously thought the trust was something you were or without it was born.
Some people just walk to the room and belong to it while the rest of the rest is to notice that no one is feeling about how uncomfortable we feel.
But that’s what I have learned, trust is not a few rare individual trait. It’s a skill. And like any skill, it can work and improve.
In fact, psychology indicates that small actions in society can feel more self-confident.
The best part. It is not necessary to falsify or become one that you are not. Just a few delicate shifts of how you actually change yourself how you feel and how others see you.
So if you are ready to walk with greater confidence in any situation, try these seven simple habits next time to go out into the public.
1) eye contact (but do not overthrow it)
Eye contact is one of the simplest forms of confidence and actually feel it.
Studies show that eye contact maintains you more confident, reliable and engage in conversation. But it is more important that it signals your own brain you belong in interaction.
The trick keep it natural. You don’t have to throw people down or force yourself in an awkward look. Just aiming to meet someone’s eyes while talking or hearing, then staring at time to rest.
If it scares, start small. Try to keep the eye contact longer than usual than in ordinary random interactions as you order coffee or passing someone.
You will be amazed at how fast it starts to feel normal, and the more confident you become because of it.
2) stand high (even if you don’t feel like that)
I used to have a habit of slipping without even realizing it, especially in the public. The shoulders were hunting, crossed his hands, headed down. Until his friend did not hear that I noticed how small I make me.
So I tried something else. The next time I entered a room I spelled my back, my shoulders pulled and raised the chin slightly.
At first he feels slightly uncomfortable, but something interesting happened. I immediately felt more in control, more. And people also react differently with me.
Psychologists call this “power.” Research suggests that your body is able to influence how much you feel. Standing high-quality signals and yourself and others you are comfortable in your skin.
So next time you go out in the public, check your posture. Small adjustment can make a huge difference as you wear yourself and how others perceive you.
3) Talk (Even when your voice is shock)
For a long time I hesitated to talk in group settings. I had something to say, but then I worked courage to say.
I told myself that I was just thought, but the truth. I was afraid of saying something wrong. Afraid of making stupid. Afraid of people who judged me.
Then one day I made myself talk to myself, even though my heart was competing. And you know what happened? Nothing is bad. No one laughed. No one got me out. In fact, people had nominated along, and someone even built my point.
Trust doesn’t always always know something perfect. It’s about trusting that what you need to say is worth listening.
If you find you keeping in conversations challenge yourself just once. Even if your voice is shock. Even if it’s not perfectly formulated. The more you do it, the easier it becomes.
4) Slow down your movements
Rushed movements make you annoyed (and feel).
I thought so much that my foot touched a lot, changing my weight, speaking very quickly. I thought nobody noticed but deep, I knew it was unclear.
Then I started paying attention to confident people. They moved with intention. Their gestures were controlled. They took their time when they talk, walk, even just reaching a glass of water.
So I tried. I slowed down my movements, stopped before stopped and resisted the urge to fill each silence. Almost immediately, I felt more compiled as I was controlling instead of responding to my surroundings.
Trust is not the highest man in the room. Sometimes it is related to the patience of moving on purpose.
5) Accept space
Never notice how confident people don’t get offended. They sit comfortably, they make a free gesture, they walk as they belong.
It is not an accident. Studies show that “extensive attitives” are actually changing how we feel that the expanding your position or spreading your hands can increase the feelings of strength and self-confidence.
The longest time I did the opposite. I would pass my hands, past my feet under my chair, or press me in the smallest corner of the room. I thought it made me less noticeable but really made me feel less physically and mentally.
So I started making a small shift. Sitting with both feet on a tightly planted ground. Not cutting my hands. I let myself take the space where I was in.
And slowly, follow that feeling of trust. Because when you move, you belong somewhere, your mind begins to believe that.
6) Recognize people
I used to walk down with public spaces, lost my own world. Not because I was unscrupulous, but because I would have assumed that no one really noticed me.
Then one day I made a small change. I started recognizing people. A Cody of good, handing me to coffee. Fast “Good morning” partner I didn’t usually talk to. Keeping some seconds for a longer a second while passing to someone on the street.
Something amazing happened. People answered. They smiled, they turned to me next time, and suddenly the world felt less distant.
Trust is only about how you feel in you. It also applies to how you contact others. And sometimes, the simplest way to feel more comfortable in your own skin is to remind yourself that you are not invisible.
7) Act as you own
Trust is not all answers or never feel nervous. It’s about determining the word before anyone do that you have the right to be there.
I was waiting for permission. I would be able to scan the room, looking for some unmarked signal I welcome I fit. But the people who seemed the most. They didn’t expect to confirm. They just showed and acted as they belonged to.
So I started doing the same. Walking to rooms without guessing the second. Talking without first apology. Sitting at the table as I meant there.
It changed everything. Because when you belong to yourself, people start to believe it including you.
Bottom line
Trust is not something you have or have, or you don’t build something.
And often, it’s the smallest shifts that are the biggest difference. Standing tall, having eye contact by taking space. These are not only confident people’s habits, they are tools that help confidence from outside.
The main thing is practice. Not perfect, not everyone is at once but consistently. Every time you talk when you usually don’t wear yourself just a little later, you will reinforce a new way.
It will not always feel natural at first. Growth never does. But trust does not ever have doubts, however, still progresses.
So start now. Show as if you are owned. Because you do?