Have you ever had a friend who looks fine on the surface but deep, you feel something rested?
They still smiled, they showed and passed through motions, but they felt different about their energy.
The truth is that not all those who fight with low self-esteem will come out and say it. In fact, many people go out of their way to hide themselves.
But if you pay close attention, there are delicate marks that can reveal what they really feel inside.
Recognizing the questions of these signs. It allows you to support people you are interested in before they reach a breakpoint.
So how can you say when someone close to you struggles, even if they never talk? Let’s look closer.
1) They go down their achievements
Have you ever complimented someone on their success only, just for them, how it didn’t brush, like it was nothing?
Instead of having their hard work, they can say they have just been successful or that it’s not a big deal. Even when they are doing something meaningful, they are fighting to see their own value in it.
This is not just humble. It can be a sign of low self esteem. When someone believes they are good enough, they have difficulty accepting or recognizing their own achievements.
If you notice this example not only let it slide. Sometimes with simple reminder, like their success, is well earned, can help them start seeing them in a new light.
2) They are constantly compared to others
Once I had a friend who always measured himself against all of his surroundings.
No matter what he has reached, never seems to be “doing better”.
If the employee stimulated, he would say that he does not work so much. If a friend bought a new car, he would suddenly feel that he was not so good.
At first, I thought he was just ambitious. But over time, I realized that it was not about motivation. It was about self-confidence. He did not mention the victories of other people. He used them as evidence that he did not deserve.
When someone constantly compares with others, it can be a sign that they do not see their value. A little reminder that their path is unique, and that their value is not related to someone else’s success, can travel a long way.
3) They apologize for everything
“Sorry.”
It was the first thing he said when he interrupted me, but he did not stop me.
“Sorry.”
He said again when he asked for a little kindness, as if it just needed something needed.
“Sorry.”
He apologized when he shared his opinion, as his thoughts were not important as everyone.
At some point I realized that he was not just polite. He sincerely felt that he was a burden. Loves to take a place by asking for help or even just available to apologize.
People who fight with low self-esteem often feel “too much” or that their needs are not important. So they shrink down, very often sorry and try not to bump anyone.
If it’s noticeable to you in anyone, remind them. Gently that they have nothing to apologize. Their presence is not a fixed problem.
4) They find it difficult to accept compliments
“You look great today.”
“Oh no, I look awful.”
“It was such a smart idea.”
“In fact, no one could think about it.”
If someone close to you always stems to compliments or the highest words, it may be more than just modesty.
Low self-esteemed people often struggle to see something good in themselves, so when someone else points out, they reject it. It is not that they do not appreciate the compliment. That’s what they don’t believe it.
The next time it happens, don’t let them brush them. Keep your land. Let them know that you mean it. In time, listening to real praises without avoiding it can help them to also believe in it.
5) they put everyone in the first place even on their account
Will you ever meet good people are also those who most struggle with self-esteem?
They will play everything to help a friend, stay at work late to cover for a colleague or always be on the others. But when it comes to their needs. They are pushed aside.
It seems generosity on the surface.
And that, but sometimes it’s even deeper. Studies have shown that people with low self-esteem often prefer others because they think that their value is derived from them.
If someone close to you never says, he always finally puts it, and it seems to be exhausted by all the cargo of everyone, they may not realize that they do not realize.
A little reminder that their value is not measured by what they do for others can be more than you think.
6) They are struggling to believe that people really care about them
Have you ever told someone that you appreciate them only for those who would answer with surprise as they didn’t expect?
Or maybe you assured a friend that you were there for them, and they pressed it, as if they weren’t sure, you really meant it.
When someone is low self-esteem, it’s hard for them to believe that they are important to others. They can assume that people are just polite, or that friendship is one-sided, even when it’s far from the truth.
If it’s noticeable to you, remind them through actions, not only words that they are valued.
Continue to show. Continue to inform that they are important. Sometimes consistency is what finally helps them to believe.
7) They are their worst critic
Listen to how they talk about themselves.
Not only in serious conversations, but in small moments when they make a mistake when they are disappointed when they think no one pays attention.
Do they call themselves stupid on something small? Do they brush their efforts because they are never good enough? They tear themselves so they would never do with someone else.
People who fight with low self-esteem often keeps impossible standards. They see every drawback, each drawback, they think they don’t measure.
If someone does to you do this reminds that they deserve the same goodness that give to others. Because we shape the way we believe with ourselves, and no one deserves to be their worst enemy.
Bottom line
If someone is fighting with low self esteem, they will not go out and say.
But the signs are there in the way they speak about themselves, how do they respond to goodness, and how much do they give without answering anything?
The most powerful thing you can do. Continue to show. Remind them, both through the words and actions that they are not important what they are doing for others, but just because they are.
Change does not occur overnight. But knowing that someone sees them, believes in them and evaluating them as all differences can.