We all have borderline lines that we paint our time to protect energy and well-being. Healthy people respect them. But some people. They push, ignore or smooth, refuse to accept them.
It’s a red flag.
If someone consistently ignores your limits, there is a good chance to deal with the narcissist.
These individuals bloom control, manipulate and right, so when you set boundaries, they see it as a request, not a problem.
It is not sure that someone in your life meets the pattern. Pay attention to these eight boundaries. If they fail to handle them, it may be time to review relationships.
1) they don’t respect your time
Time is one of your main major limits. And still the narcissists have a hard time respecting it.
They appear late, cancel plans last minute or do you expect to reduce everything for them, because in their opinion, your time is more valuable than your time.
If you try to apply it, they will probably hit it, they will make excuses, or even it will turn it over to you.
Suddenly you are reckless to expect the main courtesy.
But here is the truth. Someone who really appreciates you will also appreciate your time.
If they are constantly ignoring it, it is a sign that they do not see you equal. They see you as someone to control.
2) They are guilty of traveling to you, no
I used to have a friend who always needed good wishes, money, money, emotional support at all hours.
I didn’t mind to help at first. But when I started setting borders, things changed.
One day I told me I can’t give them money because I was saving for something important.
Instead of mutual understanding, they sighed sharply and said: “Wow, it should be nice to have a luxury not.
I remember feeling a piece of sin, even though I had every right to define that limit.
And that’s how the narcissists work. They feel selfish to give you your own needs priority.
But here’s what. “No” is a complete sentence. If someone accuses you of using it, they do not respect your limits. They try to manipulate you to cross.
3) They invade your personal space
Personal area is not only at physical distance, it’s also about emotional and mental boundaries. Narcissists, however, have the habit of ignoring both.
They are very close, touch you without permission or passing your items as if they have all rights.
And when it comes to emotional space, they think of your personal life, demand that you do not conveniently share and be offended if you are not open.
Studies have shown that people naturally feel worried when someone is about 18 inches without an invitation.
This is because the personal area is connected with our control and security. When someone constantly ignores this unexplained rule, it’s not just rude. It is a means of certifying dominance.
The man who respects you will respect your area. Narcissists. They will act as boundaries do not apply to them.
4) They are angry when it takes time alone
Everyone needs time for themselves, that’s how we charge, reflect and preserve the feeling of independence. But the narcissists do not see that.
The moment you step they take it in person. They accuse you of ignoring, to be far away or “to be different”.
Instead of the need to respect your space, they will make them about them, as if single time rejects.
This is not just a structure. It’s Control. Narcussists wants constant access to your energy and attention, because it feeds their ego. And if you try to even recover that energy for you, they will do everything possible to pull you back.
A healthy person understands that the place is necessary. Narcussian sees it as a threat.
5) They reject your feelings
I can’t tell you how many times I have been disappointed or damage, only listen, “You’re overheating.” Or, “It’s not a big deal.” Or even worse, “you are too sensitive.”
Narcissists have a form of questioning your own emotions. Instead of listening or understanding, they brush your feelings as they don’t matter.
After a while, you start to wonder if they may be right, maybe you are overheating?
But that’s what I learned. Your feelings are in effect.
If something hurts you is worth recognizing. The man who really cares about you will make you funny feelings to have emotions. They will take time to hear and understand.
6) They cross the boundaries by preferring
You would like someone who constantly despises your limits will be secret or closed. But sometimes the narcissists do the opposite. They are rather and they do it quickly.
They would tell you about the earlier details about the day, people, most of whom most people would not share that they just met.
At first, it may seem deep confidence, but in reality it is a tactic to destroy your own limits.
Uninterrupt your personal stories on you, they create a false feeling of closeness and put pressure to open as fast as possible.
Before you know it, you share things you didn’t usually discover, and that’s exactly what they want to use your emotions, vulnerability and trust before you earn it.
7) They are joking on your account
A good joke is all laughing. Narcussian’s joke. It usually comes for someone else’s expenses, often yours.
They will develop you about your insecurity, mock the things you are interested in or do sarcastic comments that don’t feel enough.
And if you call them on it. “Relax, it’s just a joke.” or “you are very sensitive.”
Suddenly it is not the problem what they say. That’s because you dared to commit a crime.
But real humor doesn’t require someone to be a punch. If someone is constantly “kidding” as it will fall asleep, we are not ridiculous.
8) They ignore the word “no”
The best sign that someone doesn’t respect the bounds. They refuse to accept “no” as a response.
You say no and they push. You set a limit and they test it. You try to stand firm and they guilty, manipulate or press you until you give up.
Narcussists believe that the rules do not apply to them, including those who have set. And if someone cannot handle all the simplest, basic border. It tells you everything you need to know.
Recognizing signs and protecting your peace
If you have read this distance, you have probably realized anything important. Boundaries are not just demands. They reflect the reflection of your self-esteem.
When someone constantly ignores or pushes them past, they show how much (or how little) they respect you.
And when someone is narcissists, the example is clear. They do not see boundaries because they give respect to respect, but as obstacles to overcome.
For that, putting boundaries with them often lead to pride, manipulation or guilt.
But here is the truth. You are not responsible for their feedback management. You don’t owe anyone access to your time, energy or emotions just because they require it.
People who really care about you will respect your borders without a question. Those who are not. They show you who they are.