Being alpha—the leader, the leader, the decision maker—is about being the best version of yourself, and that means letting go of certain behaviors.
However, certain behaviors can undermine your ability to embody this role and reach your full potential.
If you’re ready to step into your best self and show respect in all areas of life, I’m going to share with you seven behaviors to let go of.
It’s time to say goodbye to them and hello to a stronger, more confident you.
1) Validation
You know what I’m talking about, right?Constantly seeking approval for our actions, craving compliments to boost our ego, or feeling like we have to be liked by everyone.
Don’t get me wrong, it’s human nature to want validation, but if you want to be an Alpha, you need to understand that your worth doesn’t depend on what other people think of you.
Believe in yourself and your abilities. your approval should be enough for you.
2) delay
When it comes to being an Alpha, action is key.
One of the biggest obstacles I’ve personally had to overcome is procrastination. I had a habit of putting things off until the last minute or sometimes even indefinitely.
For example, there was this business idea that I had been toying with for years, but instead of taking concrete steps towards it, I kept putting it off and telling myself I would start “next month” or “when I have more time”.
This cycle continued until one day I realized that I was standing in my way.
The “perfect time” I’ve been waiting for will never come until I make it happen.
So I took the plunge, started working on my idea and let me tell you, it was one of the best decisions I ever made.
Being an alpha means taking charge and making things happen instead of waiting around.
3) Negative thinking
As an Alpha, positivity is your best friend, but negative thinking, not so much?
Our minds have a natural tendency to lean toward the negative, thanks to a phenomenon called “negativity bias.”
This means that we are more likely to notice and remember bad experiences than good ones. a survival mechanism that has helped us avoid danger since the earliest days of human evolution.
However, in today’s world it often just holds us back.
Negative thinking can cloud your judgment, stifle creativity, and prevent you from reaching your full potential, like a self-fulfilling prophecy that if you think you’re going to fail, you’re setting yourself up for failure.
Alphas choose to see the glass half full rather than half empty. they focus on solutions, not problems.
4) fear of failure
If there’s one thing that can hold you back from achieving Alpha status, it’s the fear of failure.
Let’s face it, no one likes to fail because it’s uncomfortable, it’s discouraging, and it can really bruise our ego.
However, fear of failure can be even more harmful because it can prevent us from taking risks, trying new things, or stepping out of our comfort zone.
Alphas understand that failure is not a dead end, but a path to success. they see it as an opportunity to learn and grow, not something to fear.
If you let the fear of failure dictate your actions, you will always play it safe, and playing it safe will not get you to the top.
5) Avoid difficult conversations
In my earlier years, I had a habit of avoiding harsh conversations. whether it’s discussing a problem with a friend, expressing an opinion with a colleague, or resolving an issue with a partner, I’d rather be silent than risk someone’s feelings or create conflict.
By doing so, I was only sweeping the problems under the carpet.
They did not disappear. they just fester and grow to create bigger problems.
Being an alpha means facing challenges head-on, even when it’s uncomfortable, having the courage to deal with issues directly and honestly.
Over time, I’ve learned that difficult conversations are necessary for growth and improvement.
They may be uncomfortable, but they pave the way for better understanding and stronger relationships.
6) Being a people pleaser
Becoming an alpha is not about pleasing everyone around you.
Rather, it’s about knowing your values, standing your ground, and saying no sometimes.
Unfortunately, many of us fall into the trap of being a people pleaser. we agree to things we don’t want to do, say yes when we mean no, all in the name of keeping others happy.
Here’s what it is. You can’t please everyone, and doing so will only make you feel weak and unfulfilled.
Alphas know their worth and set boundaries for themselves, and they understand that their time, energy, and happiness are important and should not be compromised to meet the expectations of others.
Start prioritizing yourself. remember that it’s okay to say no.
7) Living in the past
If you want to be a true Alpha, you have to let go of your past.
Our past experiences, mistakes and failures can often hold us hostage, preventing us from moving forward.
We get stuck in a loop of what-ifs and if-onlys that serve no purpose other than to keep us trapped.
All alphas learn from their experiences and move forward, focusing on the present and the future, not letting their past define them and instead using it to shape a better future.
The past is a place of reference, so focus on the here and now and what lies ahead.
After all, the best is yet to come.
A final thought. true power is within
Becoming an alpha isn’t just about outward displays of strength or dominance, it’s about inner strength, self-confidence, and resilience.
In the words of the ancient Chinese philosopher and author Lao Tzu, “Mastering others is power. Mastering yourself is true power.”
Being alpha isn’t about controlling others, it’s about mastering yourself.
As you think about these seven behaviors to let go of, remember that true strength comes from within.
It’s about recognizing your weaknesses, learning from them and becoming a better version of you.
Here’s to self-control and becoming an Alpha on your own.