Remember how our parents have always advised us to say “yes” more often. More open, more receptive and take away our way that comes our way.
Well, I’m here to tell you something quite.
Sometimes it’s good to say “no”. In fact, it can be a decisive step towards personal growth and happiness.
Yes you heard me right.
Saying “no” refers to negative or closed. We are talking about the priority of your needs and maintaining your life balance.
We are talking about defining clear borders that allow you to protect your time, energy and mental well-being.
Now this may seem to be reverse at first, but to wear with me.
In this article we are going to study seven things you need to start saying “no” if you really want to live a happier life.
Trust me. It’s a self-discovery journey that can redeem your personal brand and open your unused potential.
So are you willing to study the strength of “no”? Let’s dive.
1) Winning
Have you ever found you to noddle “yes” with every request only to feel overwhelmed and later?
We’ve all been there.
To make others enjoy pleasing or using the most of each occasion, we often overcome ourselves.
We say “yes”, additional work projects and social events, we will rather avoid paying us.
But here is the hunt.
When we spread very thin, we end up compromising our own needs and well-being.
Our work is suffering. Our relationship is suffering. Most importantly, our happiness suffers.
The next time you are on the verge of saying “yes”, take a break for a moment. Ask yourself if it coincides with your priorities and if you really have time and energy for it.
It’s good to say “no”. You don’t have to do everything for everyone at the expense of your own happiness.
2) Toxic Relationships
There is a saying that goes. “We are averaging five people we spend the most.”
Think about it.
If you are surrounded by negativity likely to see your own life and thinking.
I felt this first of all. A few years back, I had a friend who always complained and pessimistic.
I did not realize how much their constant negativity affects it until I started to feel dried and unhappy after our interactions.
It was a hard decision, but I eventually chose me from the distance from that relationship.
The word “no” was not easy, but it was necessary for my own well-being.
Rate your life relationships for a moment. If someone is consistently brought to you or causes you to stress, it may time to say “no” to those toxic influence.
You deserve a relationship that lifts and inspires you, not you who do not emotionally leak.
3) the idea of perfection
Our society loves the idea of perfection. The perfect body, perfect job, perfect home, perfect life.
But let me tell you something to pursue the so-called “perfect” is a mistake of stupidity.
Why do you ask?
Because perfection does not exist. It’s a MIRAGE, an illusion that runs to us in a row is never really satisfied with what we have or who we are.
I used to pursue this illusion. I compared myself to others, I always seek better for better.
But it was exhausting. And no matter how much I got, it never seemed so much.
Then one day I decided to say “no” to this endless persecution of perfection. I decided to hug my shortcomings, my quarter, my singularity.
And you know what? Liberated.
Confirm peace with your shortcomings. Accept and love yourself for who you are, not who you think you should be.
Tell “no” to the idea of perfection and “yes” to be for sure you.
Trust me. It’s a game for joy.
4) live in the past or in the future
Life is a journey, and while it is necessary to learn from our past and plan our future, it is equally important not to spoil.
Have you ever caught yourself on past mistakes or missed opportunities?
I know I have.
Or maybe you are constantly worried about what the future holds on creating scenarios in your head that can never happen.
There has also been there.
The truth is that such thinking loots us to enjoy the present moment. It sends our energy and keeps us here and now to live completely.
It’s time to say “no” to live in the past or future. Instead, choose the present to be involved.
Rejoice today’s simple joys.
Life happens right now. Don’t let it go to you while you’re stuck in your thoughts.
5) ignoring self-employment
In our fast pace, it’s easy to put the last.
We are often focused on the performance of the meetings, responsibilities and the care of others, that we forget to take care of ourselves.
Chronic stress can lead to serious health problems such as heart disease, depression and obesity.
That’s why it’s important to say “no” to ignore the condition.
Taking care of your physical, emotional and mental health is selfish. It is necessary.
Go ahead, take that very necessary break. Give priority to exercise. Eat well. Think
Do what makes you feel good and helps you cuddle.
Remember that you can’t pour into a blank cup.
You must first take care of yourself before you care about others or your responsibilities effectively.
6) Fear of failure
Failure can be a coarse pill to swallow. No one likes not to trust, the feeling of a short fall.
It can hook our ego and force us to question our abilities.
But here is the truth.
Failure is not the opposite of success. It’s part of it.
Think about learning to walk. They slip and fall into countless times before they finally be able to take those first steps.
Does it make them a failure? Absolutely no. It’s just a part of their learning process.
In the same way, you will become an error in each mistake, each of the feedback, learning and growth of each.
My friend, it’s time to say “no” to the fear of failure. Embrace it instead as a success of your way to success.
You are a man and it’s good to make mistakes. The important thing is that you will learn from them and continue to move forward.
7) People are nice
Naturally, they want to like and be accepted by others.
But when this desire turns into constant efforts to please everyone around you, it becomes a problem.
People who are nice can lead to the loss of identity, because you begin to form the expectations of others to stay true to yourself.
The fact is that you can’t please everyone. And that’s good.
The most important person you have to focus on pleasantness yourself.
Tell “no” for pleasant people. Stand yourself and your beliefs. Set limits.
Don’t be afraid of raising your opinions.
After all, your happiness should never be a trooper to confirm others. You are enough as you are.
Accepting the power of “no”
If you have found yourself related to these items, it’s probably you say “yes” that is very often at the expense of your own happiness.
The good news. This can change.
Becoming a more self-informed and consciously, to say “no” if necessary, you can move from feeling depressed and insufficient.
Start by recognizing the areas of your life where you can benefit from saying “no”.
There are obligations that you get an obligation. You silence your real feelings to avoid conflict. Do you put the needs of others in front of you?
After clarifying these areas, promptly stop pause “yes” automatically.
Ask yourself. Does this equate my values and goals? “No” will help me maintain balance in my life.
At first it may feel uncomfortable. It’s okay. With each “no” you reinforce your self-esteem and prioritize your happiness.
This is a journey rather than a destination. There will be progress and failures.
Specify each step forward and be kind to yourself during challenges.
In time, when you accept the strength of “No”, you will find a deeper feeling of more profound and happiness.
And there is no greater joy than living life that really reflects who you are.