My father said: “Childhood is the best time for your life.” But it really was.
Let’s accept it. Not all of us had a blessed childhood privilege. Some of us sailed through rocky areas, facing challenges that could leave long-term effects in our adult life.
Here is the bondage.
Sometimes these hinder the masquerade as normal behavior, and we may not even realize that they are the result of unfortunate childhood.
So if you are interested, “Why do I keep this way?” Or “Why do you react like that?” Keep reading. We are going to study seven behaviors that can show less than ideal childhood.
Remember to recognize this behavior is not about to accuse or reside before. It’s about understanding yourself better.
It’s about not building your actions and responses. And finally, is that it is about strengthening this behavior and in line with your real potential.
After all, we can’t change our past. But we can always change our future. So let’s dive.
1) Do you struggle with trust
Is not odd.
Something as simple as trusting others can become a monumental problem for some of us.
If you find it difficult to trust people, or you are always skeptical of others’ intentions, it may be related to your childhood experience. Maybe you get off to people you hang up as a child? Maybe you have been deceived or betrayed by someone you trusted.
This lack of trust is not limited to people. It can also be spread for situations and opportunities. You can hardly believe in positive results, always expecting the worst.
Here is the good news.
Recognition of this behavior is the first step towards transforming it. The past may have been taught to beware, but the future has endless opportunities for trust and communication.
Everyone, every situation, is a new opportunity, regardless of your past experience.
2) You constantly approve
Here is a confession.
I’m chronic people before. I bent backward to keep everyone around everyone happy, often, often at the expense of my own needs and desires. I was looking for certification with others, trying to meet their expectations.
Looking back, this behavior stems from my childhood. My parents found it difficult to enjoy, and their love often felt conditionally associated with my performance or behavior.
If you can relate to it, you are not alone. Growing up in an environment where love and approval have been earned, not unconditionally lead to this stubborn need for ratification.
But here’s what I learned.
Our value is not determined by the approval of others. It is defined by who we are our values and our actions.
Understanding this is a huge step towards leaving people’s chains, pleasing and walking in the authenticity of our real identity.
3) intimacy scares you
Let’s do a moment.
Do you ever find people to be removed very close? You are afraid of opening, showing your real self or by leaving emotionally emotionally.
I’ve been there. The longest time, intimacy felt like a threat. The closer someone closer, the more vulnerable I felt. And the vulnerability was something I was connected to being injured.
This fear can often stand back to unfortunate childhood where emotional connection was lacking or where the pain opened than the consolation.
But here is the truth bomb.
The fear of intimacy is a mechanism of survival from our past, and it should not be dictated by our future. It’s good to let people let them be vulnerable and open. After all, the real connection is in authenticity and vulnerability. And it’s worth the risk.
4) You are too self-assured
Have you ever heard of saying?
While there is wisdom in this parable, self-confidence can sometimes be a deeper release sign.
If you are a man who finds it difficult to ask for help, preferring to teach every responsibility alone, it could be derived from unfortunate childhood.
Maybe you had to defend yourself from an early age or perhaps your needs are not consistently or ignored.
Independence is commendable, but remember, we are social creatures. We are tense for communication and cooperation. If necessary, it takes help, it is not a sign of weakness. It is a sign of force and self-esteem.
Accept the power of interconnection. Let people enter.
5) You are a perfectionist
Perfection. It is a word that is often enchanted in our society. But do you know that improvement is often a defense mechanism?
That’s right
If you find that you are constantly trying to improve, criticizing your own work, or never feel satisfied with your childhood.
Growing up in an environment where you are constantly criticized or where only the best was good for good can lead to perfection.
But here’s something to ponder.
Perfection is an illusion. It is unavailable. What is important, progress, growth and learning from our mistakes. So go easy on yourself. Specify your achievements no matter how small it is. Remember, it’s good to be perfect.
6) You are too sensitive to criticism
I see you.
You are the man who criticizes every criticism, which feels in every negative word, and who can’t be criticized, no matter how constructive can be.
This sensitivity can remain balance from your childhood. If you are constantly criticized or distorted, it is only natural that you will develop hypersensitivity to criticism.
But remember this.
Criticism does not define you. It doesn’t measure your value or decide your potential. It’s just feedback, prospect, opinion.
Take whatever it serves you, learn from it and leave the rest. You are doing great and absolutely good to make mistakes and learn from them. After all, we are all beautiful work.
7) You have a permanent permanent feeling
If you are someone who feels forever guilty, who often accuses you of your control of things it is important to understand where it can come from.
Children who grow in a turbulent environment often internallyize the fault of the chaos around them.
This delightful feeling of responsibility can be turned into adults, showing an unnecessary sin.
But here’s the best thing you need to know.
You are not responsible for the actions and choice of others. It’s time to pour that heavy jacket and walk on self and acceptance. You are enough, just as you are.
By accepting the journey
If this behavior is resonated with you, then understand that it is not about condemning your past, but also to recognize your influence.
The good news. It doesn’t have to be your future.
Awareness is the first step in change. Detection of these patterns allows the power to move them. It’s about taking the childhood scenario to recognize it, then consciously choosing to rewrite it in a way that serves you better.
This journey takes patience. It’s like not defining the old language and to learn a new one. It will not happen overnight and it’s good.
Remember this. You are not defined by your past. Your childhood can shape you, but it doesn’t control you. The power to change in you.
With each step you turn to understand and grow, you return your story. You create a future with your real self, with your potential.