If you want to be the kind of person your children look up to, say goodbye to these habits

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I have always believed that being a good parent is only about what we teach our children, we are talking about what we are doing our actions.

We all want our children to look at us to see us as role models, from which they can respect and learn. But here is the heavy truth. They follow everything we do, not only the lessons we are trying to teach them.

It’s easy to think that love and good intentions are enough. But some habits we hardly noticed. Can I remove our children with a quiet chip when they see us?

If you really want to be someone who admire your children, it’s time to look at these habits more carefully and leave them back.

1) Giving promises you are not holding

It may seem like a little thing to say, saying your children later, then you will be very busy, or promising a trip to the weekend that never happens. But it’s bigger for them than you think.

When you break the promises, even inadvertently, you teach them that your word doesn’t mean much. In time, they cease to believe what you say.

Being someone who is looking for your children means they trust them. If you make a promise, keep it. And if something really hurts you to follow, realize it and make it right.

2) Respond with anger instead of patience

I will accept it. There have been times when I poured my children a little bit of something. Maybe I’ve run out, emphasize or just having a bad day.

But looking back, I don’t remember what keeps me disappointed. I only remember the appearance of their faces.

Children make mistakes. They are shedding things, they ask for endless questions and push boundaries. But when my first reaction is frustration instead of patience, I teach them that anger is a way to solve problems.

I want my children to see me as someone who stays calm under pressure, someone can turn without fear.

This means that you breathe deep breaths, pause before speaking and showing that mistakes are not the end of the world. They’re just part of learning.

3) giving your phone priority to people in front of you

I have caught me doing this with my child’s story while my eyes are glued to my phone. By twisting e-mail addresses, checking messages and reading something that could definitely wait.

And I’ve seen the moment they realize that I’m not really there. Their voice paths. They stop trying.

It bites to confess, but what message do I send? That’s what’s on my screen more important than them. That half-hearted hearing is enough.

If I want my children to grow up audible, estimated and respected, I have to remove the phone. Not only sometimes consistently.

Because if I don’t have their full attention now, why should I believe that I will be there when it is really important?

4) Never accept when you are wrong

There was a time when I thought being a good parent meaning to always have answers and always be right. But the truth is that I have been wrong more than I can count.

I misunderstood situations, jumped to conclusions and said I should not have it. And for a long time I let my pride get it through accepting it.

But that’s what I learned. When I refuse to recognize my mistakes, I teach my children to accept sin. Protecting your ego is more important than doing the right one.

I don’t want to be such an example. So now, when I’m messy I have it. I apologize. I show that being accountable does not allow you to: It makes you someone whom it is worth looking.

5) By allowing stress to control your mood

Stress is inevitable. But the way we regulate. That’s how our children remember.

Studies have shown that children collect the level of stress in their parents, even when we think we are hiding. They notice tensions in our voices, as we sigh hardly, as our patience passes thin. And over time, they start mirroring that behavior in their lives.

I don’t want my children to grow up, believing that stress is a short-term or distance justification. So I remind me. They follow.

If I want them to have flexibility, I have to show them what it is. Dragging deep breaths, while needing, and choosing to respond instead of responding.

6) Expecting yourself or their perfection

I used to think that being a good parent meant to get everything right, never losing my mood, always knowing the right thing, and every situation recognizes perfectly.

But such pressure. It’s exhausting. And worse, it also sets an impossible criterion for children.

I don’t want them to grow up thinking to be perfect to deserve love or respect. I want them to know that mistakes are part of life, and that growth comes from learning, not never succeed.

So, when I’m messing, I show them grace. When they make a mess, I remind you that does not make one mistake. And little time, we learn together our best experience is enough.

7) ignore them to show what love is like

I tell my children, I love them every day. But I realized that the words mean little if they did not do so.

Love seems patient when they fight, presence when they need to, and forgiveness when they are messy. It looks like funny, late night conversations and are shown again and again, even on hard days.

Our children learn what love is as we treat them. And one day they will take it on how they treat themselves and others.

So most importantly I can do. Make sure they should never question.

Bottom line

Your children will not remember every lesson you are trying to teach them, but they will remember how you feel.

They follow, not only what you say, but how do you live? The way you treat mistakes as you treat others, as you appear, even when it is difficult.

No parent is perfect. Are you going to be tempted? But the important thing is that you are constantly trying to grow and continue to show them what it means that someone deserves.

Because after all, the best way to raise good people is to be self.

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