If someone says: “It’s not a deal,” they may not understand that they are fired.
If someone says: “You are very sensitive,” they may not understand the influence of their words.
These are just a few examples of subtle expressions that often use people with social awareness without understanding how they can affect others around them.
Now the art of communication does not always walk in the park. It requires a certain level of self-knowledge and compassion for sailing successfully. And not everyone has to possess that.
These phrases can unintentionally damage or weaken others, even when no evil is used.
The main one. Validity, self-consciousness and consistent growth in our interactions, as the personal brand is not only about marketing, it’s about who you are every day.
Let’s dive and learn together.
1) “You are too much”
We’ve all been there.
Emotionally causes us from the guard. It could be frustration, frustration or even joy. And then someone tells us that we are exaggerating.
For people who do not have a social awareness, this phrase may seem harmless. After all, they may not understand the depth of our feeling or why we feel so strong.
But here’s what.
When you tell someone they are exaggerating, they actually release their emotions to make them invalid. It may face as useless and unexpected.
Of course, emotions can be chaotic and sometimes overwhelming, but they are also deeply personal. They present our unique point of view on a situation and how it affects us.
When someone tells them that they have too much pressure, it can make them think of their feelings and feel alone in their feelings.
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Beware of how your words can affect others. The empage is not only about understanding emotions. It’s about respecting them too.
2) “It’s not a deal”
I remember a situation that goes back to work at once.
I was incredibly passionate about a project we were working on. I spilled my time in it, giving me all. When the project was canceled due to budget restrictions, I was destroyed.
One of my colleagues, with the experience of comforting me, said: “It’s not so big from the deal”. I’m sure they mean well thinking they help me make things promising.
But the influence of those words was quite opposed.
Instead of comforting, I was fired. My passion and hard work of the program has been reduced to “a small case.”
My feelings of frustration were minimized, and it felt like my commitment was unavailable.
People with lack of public awareness can use this phrase without realizing its impact.
They think they make comfort but actually they can distract someone’s feelings or experience.
What may seem insignificant for you, which can be significant for someone else.
Next time, instead of underestimating someone’s feelings, try to know them and listen to listening ear. It can make all the differences.
3) “Don’t take it personally”
Imagine this. You just got some criticism at work and you feel a little bit of you. Then someone throws “Don’t take it personally”.
Sounds familiar.
The truth is that our brain is hardened to pick up items in person. It is a survival mechanism that begins with our early ancestors.
When we perceive criticism or negative reaction, it can protect the answer in our brain, as it tries to protect us from harm.
When someone says: “Don’t take it personally,” they actually ask us to oppose our natural instincts.
It can feel refusable and helpless, especially when we are already feeling vulnerable.
Realizing that it can help us to be more thought out of the words we use, especially when communicating with others who can pass a difficult time.
Instead of saying they don’t personally take things, consider it to offer constructive solutions or lending the Empathet ear.
4) “You are too sensitive”
“You are too sensitive” the phrase, which can be easily bitten, especially when you are already feeling vulnerable.
People who have no social awareness can use this line by trying to rationalize their actions or injuries.
They may not realize that this phrase can attack a person’s person, not a constructive observation.
Actually sensitivity is not a flaw. It is a feature that allows us to be deeply connected with others, to be sympathetically and feeling in a deep way.
As a “extremely sensitive” label, they may discourage themselves, express themselves to their feelings and can even force them to suppress their emotions.
Instead of labeling someone and hurting it possible, it is important to ratify the feelings and promote open communication.
It contributes to understanding, strengthening relations and it is better to agree our actions with our intentions.
5) “I was just a joke”
We’ve all heard that before. Someone is offering an offensive comment, see your reaction and follow “I was just kidding.”
I have been on completion of this more times than I can count. And let me tell you that it never becomes easier.
The problem of this phrase is that it tries to get the guilt out of the speaker.
It sends a message that the question is not with what is said, but as it turns out. It is invalidated by the feelings of the person who are damaged and rejected the effect of the words used.
I believe that humor should be joy and laughter, not wounded and embarrassed. If the joke hurts someone important to recognize their feelings and apologize.
The intention is not always an impact. Just because something was meant as a joke doesn’t mean it won’t hurt it. It is necessary to think of it when communicating with others.
6) “It’s just like that”
At first glance, “that is how I am,” it may seem that the validity can be rejected to enjoy others. And in some contexts there could be.
But when used as a response or criticism, this phrase can be problematic.
It can meet as an excuse to avoid growth and avoid responsibility for one’s actions or words.
In fact, we all work in progress. We have the ability and responsibility to learn, grow and change to the better.
Using “That’s exactly how I’m” because a shield against self-improvement can bite our personal growth and strain our relationship with others.
The next time you are tempted to use this phrase in response to feedback, instead of considering input and reflecting how you can learn from it.
7) “You Always …” or “You’re Never …”
These absolute phrases can be a mining space in touch.
When someone says “you always …” or “you’re never …” it often feels offensive. It’s like all our actions are reduced to one negative feature or behavior.
The truth is that no one is “always” or “never”. We are complex beings with a number of behaviors that can be changed depending on the situation.
These phrases can be harmful because they leave a small place for change or growth. They create a story that is difficult to break.
Instead of using absolute conditions, aiming to be more constructive criticism.
Use specific examples and focus on actions, not a person. This encourages change and growth, not to promote frustration and defense.
8) “No offense, but …”
“No offense, but …” often precedes an offensive or offensive commentary.
People who do not have social awareness can use it as a rejection, a way to alleviate what they are going to say.
But Kerry, it’s usually the exact opposite.
This phrase announces that the speaker is aware that their interpretation can be offensive, but they have been selected to say it anyway. It can feel release and disrespectful to the listener.
The bottom line. If you need to introduce something “no insults but …” is probably the best to say that at all.
Understanding the influence of our words
If you follow, you will no doubt understand that the words we use are keeping huge strength. They can heal or damage, build or tear, comfort or distress.
Social Awareness is not about being perfect or not to say something wrong. We are talking about our words and seeks to use them so that he respects and appreciates others.
Consider the expressions we have discussed. They may seem innocent, even useful, but their effect can be far from it.
And that is the essence of social awareness. Realizing that our intentions do not always coincide with our influence.
We all have a place to grow in our communication. It starts to recognize our blind spots and be open to change.
The next time you are going to pronounce one of these phrases, take a moment. Consider your words and their potential impact.
Choose compassion to remove from work to understand the verdict.
By doing so, you just do social awareness. Do you promote a more compassionate and understanding world? And it’s not that something is worth striving.