I used to see that person who would see an incoming call and make anxiety shock, my thoughts on questions. “What if I don’t have any more details?”
So I would quickly return. “Hey, can I call you later?” In time, I noticed I am not alone. Many of my friends and many coaching customers admitted that they often prefer to talk about talking on the phone.
I get it. Texting gives you a breathing room to choose your words carefully, read them again and submit you as you wish. It feels safe, especially when you are crushing work, family life or generally busy schedule.
People with my experience, who are greatly naved on the texts, share several distinctive patterns. They are definitely not shy or anti-social. They just found a communication style that suits them. Let’s study more behavior, which they are usually displayed according to psychological ideas.
1. They enjoy the controlled communication
Have you ever sent text, read it again, edited it? “Send”. It’s a control level that you can’t have with a phone call.
I remember that I feel so relief when I realized that I can choose the perfect words without the pressure waiting for the other end. According to a feature that I read about psychology today, this feeling of control can be comforted, because at the moment the “wrong” thing reduces the fear of this.
When you make a message, you can pause and collect your thoughts. Some of my customers tell me they appreciate that pause. It allows them to maintain quietly, gathered vib than to panic during live conversation.
If it’s resonant with you then watch your texts first write in the note-pickup program. That way, you can carefully review them. Almost like the Mini Proofreading Setwor before sending.
The next time you have to write a message message, please indicate how review ability makes you feel easier.
2 They seek clarity and accuracy
I often found people who rely greatly on texts appreciate clarity. They want to be accurate about the details of the location, times or instructions, and Texting allows them to put them in everyone’s organized way.
If you have ever tried to coordinate group plans by phone, you will know how many chaotic can be obtained. Everything with the text is documented. “Wait” then then tell 7 pm or 7 pm. Because there right there black and white.
The mine mentor joked once that the text is like personal transcription. You can walk around to confirm details and avoid misunderstandings. It is a mini-security network in memory we are all inclined. I found people who crave accuracy often will often restore old messages so they don’t leave in detail.
Try to label important texts like a clear subject or “meetings” keyword to find them later.
3: They often manage social anxiety
I once trained someone who shared. “I’m tongue tongue on the phone. My brain starts to work very quickly. ” For them, the text felt a shield, the opportunity to present their best option without the temptation of words.
There is a comforting distance in text-based communication. You do not face any one’s immediate reaction that can scare if you worry about negative judgment.
I have read a Harvard business review that asynchronous communication, like email or text, can be useful for those who feel social unrest because it allows you to avoid real-time pressure. This breathing room can be a goddess, especially for people who need extra time to manage stress.
Of course, it can also become a clutch if it is the only way they communicate. But in moderation, texts can offer a sense of relief.
If you are struggling with phone conversations, short sound notes you practice with the people you trust. It is a child for more direct interactions.
4. They reflect before answering
I have always admired how some people are able to pause and think before you answer. Texting encourages that habit. You can read text, let you sit down and get back to it with a thoughtful answer. There is little space for reflection. You are expected to respond immediately.
One of my friends is a great negotiator. He attributes some of his success to the preference of text communications. When someone sends him a request, he demands a moment to consider all the angles before he removes his answer.
The ability to reflect creates a higher quality dialogue even if it’s slow. People who flourish the thoughtful exchanges often keep their sweet spot, as it allows you to process and form a well-considered answer from time to time.
Next time you get a text that requires a thinking response, wait a few minutes before answering. See if a short break improves the quality of your answer.
5. They avoid immediate confrontation
Let’s accept that phone calls can sometimes catch your guard. Emotions can be ignited and before you know it, you are locked in a tense exchange you have not seen.
On the other hand, the texts put buffer between you and the other person. If someone is upset, you have time to rejoice, breathe, and a more calm, more measured response instead of stimulating.
Once I entered into a small disagreement with a partner. We decided to call texts when everything was heated. It’s strange, the moment we changed the tension eased.
Having a place to choose our words carefully helped us to solve the problem faster. People who prefer messages often do it as they can bypass the emotional base that can occur with an unforeseen phone call.
When you feel that the conversation is heated to consider to offer a short break before the text continues. It can prevent argument from aggravating.
6. They prefer non-processing emotional signs
Emojis, GIF and punctuation may seem insignificant, but they can transfer an amazing amount of emotion. I have noticed that the first people of the text rely greatly to express these elements to express emotions-smilies to make a friendliness to relieve mood.
In some ways, these visual instructions are a simpler method of displaying how you feel without saying loudly. Although the phone calls offer a direct voice tone, the word written has a very emotional place if you are creative.
According to the study, I met forbes, digital communication, including Emojis, helps to form connections, as it complements the missing emotional context. Not the same because laughing someone in real time but it still offers a spark of personality.
If you want to transfer heat into the text, try to add a friendly Emoji or fast GIF. Try with something that feels natural for you.
7. They rely on digital convenience
I am a tool for using the right tool for the use of the right tool for the job. Sometimes the simplest reason for the kindness of the text is that it’s just easier. You can be a message between meetings while during your lunch break without a complete call obligation.
Life can achieve heated, especially if you balance working duties and family responsibilities. Texting is a perfect shortcut.
I have two children at home, and even though I love to spend quality time with them, there are moments when I need to quickly talk about. This is the maximum efficiency of this convenience, the maximum efficiency. Texting lets you join even in your most luxurious days.
If your schedule is jam-packed, set a special “text check” times so you are not constantly glued to your phone. This helps maintain balance between stay in touch and stay focused on other tasks.
8. They protect their personal limits
It may seem strange, but I think something makes it empowering when to decide when answering. You don’t have to take immediately, just as you can feel by calling phone. People who prefer to write, often appreciate that limit. They can respond to their time by maintaining a sense of personal space.
I once worked with a customer who was fighting with the balance of work life. Phone calls, especially hours later, felt him. Texting has provided the middle ground. They could still be available for emergencies, but without dismissing pressure pressure.
“I usually check my messages at the top of each hour,” they recovered control of their schedule and stress level.
If you feel depressed from permanent requirements of your attention, create a personal policy on response times. Let people know you will answer a collection in the window.
Conclusion
Texting can be a wonderful flexible way to spread the connection, distribute the updates and even solves conflicts in a slightly healthy distance. If you have someone who naturally stretches on text-based communication, there is nothing “wrong” with you. You just choose a form of interaction matching with your comfort and everyday life.
In other words, it is also helpful to stretch from your favorite style when the situation calls. Sometimes a heartless phone call or face-to-face conversation can reinforce relationships faster than dozens of texts.
I like to challenge me and I encourage you to do the same. Maybe next time a good friend or relative calls try to pick up. Pay attention to how that immediate contact feels.
And if that’s not the right moment, you can still write and continue the conversation at your own pace. Hitting the balance allows us to communicate more efficiently and communicate.