You send text, they are reading almost immediately … and then.
The hours of silence go through before they finally answer.
Is familiar. We all know someone like this, or maybe we are that man.
At first it may seem that they ignore you or just wrote badly.
But in fact, there is often more under the surface.
The path of communicating with people (or not) can reveal a lot about their personality, habits and even their thinking.
Psychology suggests that those who demand their time to respond are inclined to certain behaviors, some are obvious, some are amazing.
Here are eight most common.
1) They fail everything
Have you ever looked a message knowing what you can say, but still hesitates to enter it?
It is the daily struggle of land.
People who often do it forever, because their minds run within.
They analyze the shade, given the correct words, and sometimes even predicting every possible reaction before sending them.
It’s not that they don’t want to answer. They just want to get right.
In the process of overanalyzing, the minutes are turned into hours … and suddenly half a day.
2) they are easily oppressed
I will be honest. I am the man who reads a message and thinks, “I will answer a little,” only for a long time “a little”.
It’s not that I’m not interested. In fact, I care too much sometimes.
When my inbox is full or I have a lot of conversations at a time, my brain just turns off. Instead of answering immediately, I push it unless I have a mental space to give a proper answer.
The problem that “mental space” doesn’t always come as fast as I’m waiting for.
While the message sits there, it is perfectly visible, I’m stuck to avoid a cycle until the culprit will get me to answer the hours (or even days).
3) They give priority to a person’s interactions
Some people just don’t see the text as a basic form of communication.
They would rather speak face to face, hear the voice of someone or be completely present at the screen at the screen.
Studies have shown that the social interactions of real life are stimulated by the Oxytocin, the “connecting hormone” so that the text simply cannot.
For those who prosper deep, personal connections, answering messages can be relevant, not because they do not appreciate the conversation, but because they naturally focus. *
If they spend time with someone personally, their phone remains unprotected.
And before that, they check their messages again. The hours have passed.
4) They are struggling with decision making
For some, answering the text is not just about typing words. It’s a decision.
For people who are fighting for decision-making, even small elections can feel overwhelming.
Should they respond now or later? Keep shorter or think of something thoughtful. Add Emoji or leave it.
These little details may seem great deal but for someone who first guesses everything they can make a simple answer in a mental obstacle.
Instead of making a faster decision, they take them out.
Before they know that, answering the text has just become something else in their mentally to-do list.
5) They are easily distracted
I can’t count the number of messages that I have opened a message with a full intention to answer only to deviate from something else.
Work email. Mail, Social Media Notification, or even the idea of making a snack, my attention is different, and that text.
Completely forgotten.
For people who are easily distracted, responding to messages is not always a priority at the moment.
Not because they don’t care, but because their brain jumps from one thing to another so fast that it falls into the back.
They once they remember. Hours have passed, and now they need to find out how to answer without making it obviously forgotten.
6) They actually care about the conversation
It is possible that someone who answers the hours does not interest the conversation, but sometimes the opposite is true.
For people who really care about their interactions, quickly, the half-answer answer doesn’t feel correct.
They don’t want to answer just that. They want to give a thinking response.
But if they are busy, mentally dried, or just in the right head, they will wait until they answer properly.
Surprisingly, this desire is to be full to present the conversation that causes them to respond first to the first place.
7) They have a different feeling of urgency
Not everyone sees the text as something that requires an immediate response.
For some, there is a built-in understanding that messages can sit for some time before answering, especially if it is no urgent question.
Although others may feel the need to answer immediately, these people do not see delayed answers as a big deal.
According to them, if something really important was, the other person would call or follow.
Instead of returning, they answer when it feels convenient for them. Is that in one hour of the day or later?
8) They expect people to do the same
People who take hours to answer usually don’t mind when others do the same.
For them, the text is not about speed. We are talking about the transmission of their terms.
They assume that just as they deviate, fail, or wait to answer at the right moment, others too.
Delayed response does not mean anxiety or roughness; Just how the conversations naturally flow in their world.
If you have ever been worried that last long to get back to the text, chances are barely observed.
Why is it not necessarily a bad thing
If you have read this distance, you probably understood that for a long time it doesn’t always mean that someone is rude or careless.
In many cases, it just reflects how their minds work and how they approach communication.
Psychologists have long studied how different people communicate with technology, and the truth is not everyone installs for instant answers.
Some people need time to develop, others are distracted, and some simply prefer deeper, more intentional conversations around the rush.
The next time someone leaves your message to “Read” for hours it can be personal.
In fact, they can do what they want you to answer when it feels right not only for it.