If someone’s voice is shock when they talk, you can bet they are nervous. If someone avoids eye contact they are probably shy.
Simple enough, isn’t it?
Well, not for me. You see, talking to me to send to fear tails.
My voice would be left, my palms would hit, and I would feel the smallest man in the room.
But I knew I had something to say. I knew my ideas are valuable. So I decided to do something about it.
That’s how I found courage to make my voice ring loudly, even when each instinct said it would remain calm.
1) understand my fear
Fear is a complex beast.
It may paralyze you, keep you with and convinced you that your voice does not deserve to hear. Anyway that happened to me.
Every time I tried to talk, fear was hurried like a wave, suppressing me and silencing my voice before it could even sound.
But I knew that it was not who I was really. I had ideas, thoughts and prospects that were valuable and needed to share.
So I decided to face my fear before. I started identifying it, realizing his roots and recognizing it.
I realized that this fear was not my part, but a barrier that prevents me from expressing my true self.
And once I realized that it became clear what to do next.
2) taking the first step
I remember a pretty day.
We were in a team meeting, and my manager was discussing a project about which I had some strong opinions. When he spoke, I could feel my heart race and the mouth dries. Fear had returned.
But this time I was prepared.
I breathed a deep breath, I raised my hand and waited for him to know me.
And when he did, I spoke. My voice was first shocked, but because I continued to express my thoughts, it began to be stable.
Of course, it was not perfect. There were some awkward pauses and I slipped some words.
But I did it. I took the first step to conquer fear and fill my voice.
That day marked the beginning of a journey to the more confident to me who could have climb without fear.
3) Hugs the power of practice
Do you know that it takes about 10,000 hours to practice skill? This is according to Malcolm Gladwell, “outbound. A success story “Author:
And that’s right even for something, it seems clear.
Correctly like to play a tool or play a sport, finding your voice requires time, devotion and practice. Lots and a lot of practice.
So I started small. I started making more investment or one-time conversations in smaller group settings. Then I gradually moved to a larger crowd and higher pressure situations.
With each step, I not only raised my communication skills, but I immediately build my trust.
4) looking for support
Let’s be clear, this journey was not a walk in the park. There were times when self-confidence was crawling, forcing me to ask my progress and opportunities.
But here’s what. We are not called to solve our fears alone.
So I helped the people who understand my struggle.
People who could listen, give advice or just give a very necessary encouragement.
Whether it was a close friend, a trusted tutor or a professional coach, having someone to share my journey to all differences.
Their support was like a security network, providing me with courage to take risks and out of my comfort zone.
And let me tell you. It made all the differences in the world.
5) Celebrating small victories
In my journey I learned that progress is rarely a straight line. There are up and downs, jumps forward and slip backwards.
And that’s good.
Indeed, the important thing is recognized correctly and marks the small victories of the small road.
When I was able to raise my opinion without stinging, I mentioned.
When I presented a presentation without shocking my hands, I mentioned. When I didn’t respect with a partner with respect and confidently, I mentioned.
Noting these small victories, I was able to recognize my progress and gather momentum.
It burned my trust, making it easier to face the next challenge.
Because after all, every step, no matter how small is the evidence of our courage and flexibility. And that’s something worth celebrating.
6) By hugging the nerves
Can you think that the goal is to eliminate fear completely? But here’s an unexpected turn – fear is not always the enemy.
In fact, it is completely normal that it is nervous, especially in high stake situations.
Even the most experienced speakers and performers feel the nervous bead before walking on the stage.
Instead of trying to remove those nerves, I learned to hug them.
I saw them as a sign that I pushed my limits out of my comfort zone and grow as a person.
Nerves are not a sign of weakness, but a natural response to new experience.
Don’t fight them. Accept them, accept them, then make what you need to do.
Believe me or not, it can actually be an amazing stimulus of trust.
7) Remembering my reason
There were moments during this journey when I questioned if it was worth it.
Moments when the fear seemed great, the challenge was also very frightening.
But when those moments came, I reminded me why I first started this journey.
I wanted my voice to be heard. I wanted my ideas to promote the conversation. I wanted to be true to myself and actually express my thoughts and feelings.
Keeping this “Why” on the front line helped me motivate and improve, even when everything got harder.
It served as a powerful reminder that I was not only for myself, but for those who can benefit from hearing my voice.
Because at the end of the day, finding the courage to speak more than to overcome fear. It’s about making a change, but it can be small.
8) Trust myself
In the heart of all this, finding the courage to speak, goes down to something, trust.
Trust your ideas. Trust in your ability to communicate. And most importantly, trust yourself.
Trust you have something valuable to add conversation. Trust that your voice is important and that it deserves to hear.
Because once you really believe in yourself, the fear loses his grip.
And talking becomes not the action of courage, but just a natural expression of who you are.
Accepting your voice
If you have done it so far, hope you have realized that talking is much more than a simple action of courage.
It’s about validity. It’s about listening to your thoughts and ideas. It is about trusting yourself and to recognize the value of your voice.
The journey to overcome the fear of speaking can be tough.
But remember, every temptation, every awkward pause, and every shocking word is alien stone on the way to self-confidence.
Think for a moment. Consider your own relationship to speak: Does it terrify you? Or found your voice.
Because at the end of the day your voice reflects who you are. And trust me. It deserves to hear.