I never realized how exhausting I was to be around. Here’s how I learned to stop draining people without losing myself.

I never realized how exhausting I was to be around. Here’s how I learned to stop draining people without losing myself.

I was wondering why people left time with me dried. The conversations would start lively, but until the end, I would notice subtle shifts. Less eye contact, shorter answers, some gravity in the air. Some friends even began to leave, more often canceled plans or for a longer time to answer. At first, I thought … Read more

I thought being agreeable made me a good person. Here’s how I realized it was hurting me

I thought being agreeable made me a good person. Here's how I realized it was hurting me

Longest time I thought it was easy, always say yesAvoiding conflict, making sure everyone liked me, it was a good thing. That it made me good man. But over time, I started doing something. The more he bent backwards to enjoy everyone as far as I deviated myselfA number I was not kind. I was … Read more